Christian single on Match has axe to grind with "dumo-crats"

[ThisIsMe123]

Not sure if post seems too politically charged, but had to get this off my chest as this is bothersome to see.

I saw this dating profile of a woman that says she's Republican, and answered Match's canned questions of, "If you were to change about the world, what would it be?" She said, "Our current president" (Biden obviously, doesn't mention him by name).

And in part of her profile:

I’m Republican and pro-police. Sorry, NO dumocrats.

Sadly she's an Anesthetist, and chances are doesn't believe in Covid either.

As a Christian, if you see this...how un-Christian does her profile sound to you? So politically charged.

I have noticed other profiles in my area like this of Christian women that are still obsessed with Trump even after he's come and gone.

"I'd just like to say, I voted for Trump!"

For Christian seeking Christians, but, a Christian that is not at all aligned with THAT Christian...isn't it kind of sad that you would not be able to have any association with these? I am thinking that's why Christianity isn't the end-all,be-all of what's truly compatible in a partner.

 

[bèlla]

There's little difference between her statement and what you encounter on CF. You trade barbs and insults and she put it on her profile. Who's to say you wouldn't see the same if we had them? While you're focused on Republicans, the same holds true for the other side. Both are wrong.

Politics were never a factor in my connections. But that doesn't hold true for others. Being here revealed that. I have no time for factions or obsessions and avoid people of that stripe.

 

[bèlla]

Scriptures Worth Remembering

strife: bitter sometimes violent conflict or dissension
contentious: likely to cause disagreement or argument

Focusing on contentious subjects always causes strife. Sometimes silence is best.

The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so quit before the quarrel breaks out. —Proverbs 17:14

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God. —Matthew 5:9

And the Lord's servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. —2 Timothy 2:24

A man of wrath stirs up strife, and one given to anger causes much transgression. —Proverbs 29:22

There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers. —Proverbs 6:16-19

But avoid foolish controversies, genealogies, dissensions, and quarrels about the law, for they are unprofitable and worthless. As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him, knowing that such a person is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned. —Titus 3:9-11

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Scriptures Worth Remembering

strife: bitter sometimes violent conflict or dissension
contentious: likely to cause disagreement or argument

Focusing on contentious subjects always causes strife. Sometimes silence is best.

The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so quit before the quarrel breaks out. —Proverbs 17:14

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God. —Matthew 5:9

And the Lord's servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. —2 Timothy 2:24

A man of wrath stirs up strife, and one given to anger causes much transgression. —Proverbs 29:22

There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers. —Proverbs 6:16-19

But avoid foolish controversies, genealogies, dissensions, and quarrels about the law, for they are unprofitable and worthless. As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him, knowing that such a person is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned. —Titus 3:9-11

Hm, good to know.

 

[bèlla]

Hm, good to know.

There's an old saying attributed to etiquette. "Never discuss religion or politics." It causes divisions. Years ago, it wasn't a topic you'd discuss in polite company. Men and women might do so amongst themselves privately. But never in public. Because of the fallout.

 

[Norbert L]

Not sure if post seems too politically charged, but had to get this off my chest as this is bothersome to see.

How the government manages a police force has been a political issue second or third down the line from the bomb that is abortion when it comes to voting Democrat.

As a Christian, if you see this...how un-Christian does her profile sound to you? So politically charged.

Rather than attach the stigma and label her as un-Christian, it sounds like a rather effective way to automatically receive zero replies from unwanted suitors. While those that agree with her might find that kind of reply worth the time, to pursue a woman that's not shy about speaking her mind.

Basically it's not un-Christian to freely look for and have the freedom of speech to find a match that agrees with a person's political dispositions.

 

[bèlla]

Sadly she's an Anesthetist, and chances are doesn't believe in Covid either.

How do you know she doesn't believe in Covid? Why would you make that leap?

 

[JustSomeBloke]

The OP should be grateful that she has been totally upfront. In doing so, she has saved him some time and effort from contacting someone who is not a good match for him. And as another forum member pointed out, it's also an excellent filter for her. She doesn't want to be contacted by people of a certain political persuasion. When I used to use online dating (a long time ago), if I saw something that was a clear incompatibility, I just clicked next. There's no use in dwelling on it, or trying to find fault in the other.

Why not seek out the opposite? For example, I'm sure there are plenty of women who put 'No Trump voters' in their profile. In fact, voting demographics being what they are, I'd guess that they probably outnumber those who put 'No Dumocrats'. You can't reasonably expect to have a bite at every single cherry on the dating tree, so just focus on those who are suitable. Or even better, start talking to women you meet in real life, and see if you have anything in common.

 

[bèlla]

The OP should be grateful that she has been totally upfront.

Truth be told, I like wacky profiles. The ones that are over the top. I read it out loud to my daughter and we laugh. If I find a great thread that's a funny train wreck, I may read the comments. People say things I'd never dream of. Sometimes it's hilarious.

 

[Sketcher]

Not sure if post seems too politically charged, but had to get this off my chest as this is bothersome to see.

I saw this dating profile of a woman that says she's Republican, and answered Match's canned questions of, "If you were to change about the world, what would it be?" She said, "Our current president" (Biden obviously, doesn't mention him by name).

And in part of her profile:

I’m Republican and pro-police. Sorry, NO dumocrats.

Sadly she's an Anesthetist, and chances are doesn't believe in Covid either.

As a Christian, if you see this...how un-Christian does her profile sound to you? So politically charged.

I have noticed other profiles in my area like this of Christian women that are still obsessed with Trump even after he's come and gone.

"I'd just like to say, I voted for Trump!"

For Christian seeking Christians, but, a Christian that is not at all aligned with THAT Christian...isn't it kind of sad that you would not be able to have any association with these? I am thinking that's why Christianity isn't the end-all,be-all of what's truly compatible in a partner.

When I encounter women like that, I do appreciate that their ire is leveled at the correct party. However, this doesn't translate into being good wives or girlfriends or people I would want to share an Uber with.

If you watched Fox News 7-10 years ago, there were perfect examples of what I'm talking about as political commentators. There were some good looking women who were able to think critically and make their points, all 30+ and still single. I wondered why, and then it dawned on me with one of the more pronounced examples, Andrea Tantaros. I liked looking at her, I liked what she had to say, but I didn't like listening to her. I honestly wondered if she could turn off the negativity she rightly aimed at the Democrats on cameras in her personal life. I know that for myself, I need someone with a gentle, quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:4) if married life is going to be bearable, and you don't put your time and energy into studying and arguing and crafting arguments, and get paid to do that for a living every day if you have a gentle, quiet spirit.

A more recent example is Tomi Lahren and her well-publicized rant about not being able to find a good man. Even if she were to find a man who as a matter of course treats women the way she demanded to be treated, would he really want to come home to that attitude? If he's self-respecting, then no, he won't.

This is not to say that liberal women are better at all, rather it is merely to illustrate that just because someone has enough good values and good sense to not vote Democrat, that's not everything. If she knows what is right, good. But is she kind, and inviting, and patient, and forgiving, and generous?

 

[.Mikha'el.]

Not sure if post seems too politically charged, but had to get this off my chest as this is bothersome to see.

I saw this dating profile of a woman that says she's Republican, and answered Match's canned questions of, "If you were to change about the world, what would it be?" She said, "Our current president" (Biden obviously, doesn't mention him by name).

And in part of her profile:

I’m Republican and pro-police. Sorry, NO dumocrats.

Sadly she's an Anesthetist, and chances are doesn't believe in Covid either.

As a Christian, if you see this...how un-Christian does her profile sound to you? So politically charged.

I have noticed other profiles in my area like this of Christian women that are still obsessed with Trump even after he's come and gone.

"I'd just like to say, I voted for Trump!"

For Christian seeking Christians, but, a Christian that is not at all aligned with THAT Christian...isn't it kind of sad that you would not be able to have any association with these? I am thinking that's why Christianity isn't the end-all,be-all of what's truly compatible in a partner.

Profiles like that deserve no more attention than simply scrolling right on by.

 

[bèlla]

I liked looking at her, I liked what she had to say, but I didn't like listening to her. I honestly wondered if she could turn off the negativity she rightly aimed at the Democrats on cameras in her personal life.

You're absolutely right. Even if she did it still reflects on him and that's my sticking point. It feeds the wrong spirit. I see it a lot online. They're slugging it out. You can't maintain a soft temperament when you indulge it.

I know that for myself, I need someone with a gentle, quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:4) if married life is going to be bearable, and you don't put your time and energy into studying and arguing and crafting arguments, and get paid to do that for a living every day if you have a gentle, quiet spirit.

I don't like that in a man either. People who spend their free time arguing often discuss it with their partner. I don't want to hear it. I like calm and peace. I want to hear something good and edifying. Not about the idiot you told off.

But is she kind, and inviting, and patient, and forgiving, and generous?

I used to be in a community of women that reinforced those traits. We had accountability too. The world says roar but you need to dial it down. That's hard when everyone around you behaves the same. You have to seek those women out.

 

[Sketcher]

Truth be told, I like wacky profiles. The ones that are over the top. I read it out loud to my daughter and we laugh. If I find a great thread that's a funny train wreck, I may read the comments. People say things I'd never dream of. Sometimes it's hilarious.

There are places where some pretty bad ones get roasted, but you might not appreciate some of the other content there.

 

[bèlla]

There are places where some pretty bad ones get roasted, but you might not appreciate some of the other content there.

I don't need to see that. I used to post in the political forums when I came. But the Lord made me stop. He said it wasn't edifying. I'd never done it before and didn't understand the incivility or how political Christians were. It was more contentious then. He didn't want me involved.

I go to a secular site now and they're footloose. I read a train wreck that required me to google the terms they exchanged. I'd never heard them. They take insult to another level.

I try to stick to subjects that allow me to encourage and inspire others. That's why I talk about relationships and answer questions. I like to help people.

I need to bring it down. Not turn it up. I'm high octane as it is. I'm trying to feed the other side.

 

[I AM CONTENT]

I too stay out of political talk. It is too depressing in my own opinion.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

I don't need to see that. I used to post in the political forums when I came. But the Lord made me stop. He said it wasn't edifying. I'd never done it before and didn't understand the incivility or how political Christians were. It was more contentious then. He didn't want me involved.

I go to a secular site now and they're footloose. I read a train wreck that required me to google the terms they exchanged. I'd never heard them. They take insult to another level.

I try to stick to subjects that allow me to encourage and inspire others. That's why I talk about relationships and answer questions. I like to help people.

I need to bring it down. Not turn it up. I'm high octane as it is. I'm trying to feed the other side.

This I can really respect about you, Bella. Kudos

 

[ThisIsMe123]

When I encounter women like that, I do appreciate that their ire is leveled at the correct party. However, this doesn't translate into being good wives or girlfriends or people I would want to share an Uber with.

If you watched Fox News 7-10 years ago, there were perfect examples of what I'm talking about as political commentators. There were some good looking women who were able to think critically and make their points, all 30+ and still single. I wondered why, and then it dawned on me with one of the more pronounced examples, Andrea Tantaros. I liked looking at her, I liked what she had to say, but I didn't like listening to her. I honestly wondered if she could turn off the negativity she rightly aimed at the Democrats on cameras in her personal life. I know that for myself, I need someone with a gentle, quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:4) if married life is going to be bearable, and you don't put your time and energy into studying and arguing and crafting arguments, and get paid to do that for a living every day if you have a gentle, quiet spirit.

A more recent example is Tomi Lahren and her well-publicized rant about not being able to find a good man. Even if she were to find a man who as a matter of course treats women the way she demanded to be treated, would he really want to come home to that attitude? If he's self-respecting, then no, he won't.

This is not to say that liberal women are better at all, rather it is merely to illustrate that just because someone has enough good values and good sense to not vote Democrat, that's not everything. If she knows what is right, good. But is she kind, and inviting, and patient, and forgiving, and generous?

This reminds me of one woman on Match, she works at a local church I know of, mid 40s, divorced, attractive brunette. Pretty eyes. She looks rather intelligent has an intelligent write-up, however...she had some implicit photos of her conservative ways. For instance, a pic of her shooting an AR at the range, red-white and blue shirt, and so on. I think she mentioned she was Republican in her profile.

Though, I do like conservative women, I don't like them when they are politically charged.

I recall one woman saying, "Figured I'd put this out there...I voted for TRUMP, that'll eliminate a lot of prospects!"

Thing is, does it matter as he's no longer president? That's the weird part. Why should it matter who you're rooting for anymore?

 

[bèlla]

This I can really respect about you, Bella. Kudos

Thank you TIM. I'm trying.

 

[JustSomeBloke]

A cautionary tale - The one time I tried to date a woman who clearly stated on her profile that she wasn't interested in men like me​

A long time ago, back in the days when I still did online dating, I saw a lovely lady on a dating site. There was just one problem, she was 5'10", and she stated in her profile that would be suitors must be 6'2'' or more.

Having seen the most common complaints from ladies about online dating experiences, I was well aware that many men were reportedly lying online about their height, by adding 2'' to the height that they really were. Armed with this knowledge I thought, no problem, I may be only 6', but it's a genuine 6', so I'll still be taller than her.

So I sent her a message, telling her that I really was 6', and that I hadn't added 2'' to my online height. Her response was that she couldn't date anyone under 6'2'', or she wouldn't be able to wear high heels.

I didn't ask her why a woman who was already 5'10'' needed high heels. Or point out that even in ballet pumps she already towered over most women and a small proportion of men. Instead, I tried to be helpful, and sent her the URL for a website that showed the height distribution curve for UK men and women. From this URL, it was clearly evident that the 6'2''+ pond she was fishing in was extremely small.

Boom! My response went down like a cup of cold sick! She was not a happy online dater! I didn't get a date with her, and she got fed some unwelcome statistics! The moral of the story is, don't message, don't argue, don't waste time, don't look back, just move on to the next.

 

[bèlla]

I didn't ask her why a woman who was already 5'10'' needed high heels. Or point out that even in ballet pumps she already towered over most women and a small proportion of men.

Women look striking in heels and they know it. Men agree. It's a no-brainer. My aunts are 5'9-5'11. They all wore heels.

I'm happy with this as a daily shoe. I can run errands in them.

This is fine for me otherwise.

But he has other ideas. He'd choose these and tolerate the previous. I'd never get the first.