Hello blackribbon, thanks for your reply.
No, I did not start my adult life with the expressed intention of having a mate and a family. Although you have to admit that it is pretty much the standard blueprint for a happy and fulfilled life, isn't it? So I always thought that is what I would end up in, but it did not happen for various reasons. Now what do I strive for instead? The thought I always had about single people is that they must have a special mission or passion that makes their lifestyle worthwhile. But that is not the case with me either. So what am I? Just a normal person with an essential part of normal life missing. I can't find a direction for going forward. Other people are no help: I feel more and more that in their eyes my life is somehow poorer and inferior and they pity me and don't take me seriously. Church is also mostly silent about single life or drastically misrepresents it.
I disagree with you about dreams being a suitable guide. I have always been a realist and dreams are the realm of imagination. I don't have any dreams that are inspirational in nature. Dreams for me are daydreams that tell stories to think about when I am bored, but nothing that I would like to see happen in real life. I have never experienced God speaking to me through my dreams and passions, that channel of communication just does not suit my personality very well
Nothing has changed that makes me suddenly doubt my purpose. I have always lived my life with the best of intentions and right now I feel that I am at a dead end. I would like to be more intentional about how I lead my life, but being on my own makes everything seem so undefined, impulsive, inconsequential. I am looking for guidance but I can't seem to find any. Thinking about it, maybe I am not really looking because I need to deal with some unresolved emotions first, is that possible?