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Christian Dating Question

Discussion in 'Friendship Court' started by shinethewordbro, Feb 15, 2002.

Is there a limit to Christian dating intimacy?

  1. Yes

  2. Depends

  3. No

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  1. .axsmedia.

    .axsmedia. ..Papa Roach..

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    All I have to say is live a little, and enjoy life.
     
  2. AngelAmidala

    AngelAmidala Legend

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    But there are a lot more ways to enjoy life...with or without a significant other. :)
     
  3. Joseph Swann

    Joseph Swann New Member

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    Aint nothing wrong wit two lil christians gettin a little freaky before mirrage.. as long as they don't actually have sex

    And I would recomind the two people who getting a lil freaky to be strong and determind not to go all the way cuz when you getting freaky temptation runs VERY HIgh.. so you gots to be determind not to gall all the way.. staple your pants to your waste if ya have to haha.

    peace
     
  4. Joseph Swann

    Joseph Swann New Member

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    SenseiPiccolo

    LOL At this guys comment.. he said kissing no tounge haha.. woo wee I was rollin when I read that.. haha Whats the point of even kissing if you don't use your tounge...

    Can as for JohnR7
    ... can you show me any where in the bible where is it says its wrong for two people dating? holding and kissing and stuff....

    and just for my knowledge..... what is the scripture in the bible that says we should not have sex before mirrage.. not saying it isn't in the bible.. i just want some one to give me biblical refrence

    And COME ON PEOPLE whats wrong with you? lol do you think God doesn't know we all have sexual desires.. Hecks yeah Jesus knows.. hes the one who put that desire there.. what he didn't put is lust, and wickedness and other such things.. God knows we all want some one. Thats why I think its Very well with God if you have found some one you realy like.. its ok to realese your built up sexual desire.. but ofcourse not going all the way.

    Opinions, comments?
     
  5. .axsmedia.

    .axsmedia. ..Papa Roach..

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    I agree with most of what you said....... and notice the most ;)
     
  6. SenseiPiccolo

    SenseiPiccolo Well-Known Member

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    heres some scripture...
    Proverbs 1:10
    2 Cor 6:14
    Proverbs 10:23
    1 Peter 5:8
    Proverbs 28:13
    1 Cor 6:17-18
    1 Cor 10:12-13

    Ill give you the joy of looking it up again...
    :D
     
  7. oncewaslost

    oncewaslost owl

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    plus, might i add, your body is a temple (1 Cor. 6:19-20) why would you want to devile the temple?
     
  8. KittyKat

    KittyKat New Member

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    I think you should wait till your married
     
  9. thrive

    thrive romans 8:28

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    Amen, once. ;)

    I think it's EXTREMELY importante to wait until marriage. I can see wanting to be "close" to someone you deeply care about, but i personally believe (feel free to disagree, lol) that this pleasure you speak of will be MUCH more wonderful if you wait. God wants the best for us, & i for one don't want to settle for anything.

    Plus, don't you think you're depriving your future spouse (or your g/f - b/f future spouse) of something very precious? I mean, i wouldn't like the idea of my future husband making out w/ some girl just because it feels good & it's fun. Fun & good feelings only last so long.

    I've seen far too many ppl i care about hurt, because they went "all the way" (or even just some of the way) w/ ppl they thought they were in love w/ & would be w/ forever.

    How very true i've come to realize is the verse, "Do not stir up nor awaken love until it pleases." Song of Solomon 8:4

    :eek: :cool: :eek:
     
  10. oncewaslost

    oncewaslost owl

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    true to that.
     
  11. thrive

    thrive romans 8:28

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    :D
     
  12. Deird

    Deird New Member

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    In my experience, going too far cheapens everything before it. For example: if you start kissing someone as soon as you're going out, you are not going to think it's a big deal. But if you kiss about... say... once a week or so, it is A BIG DEAL every time you kiss! You get the thrill of thinking "is he going to kiss me? I think he's going to kiss me! Aaargh!" every time it happens, which is really special, and something I think people who go too far too fast miss out on.
     
  13. Hishandmaiden

    Hishandmaiden The Humble Servant Supporter

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    I think it is importance to wait until marriage, before you anything.
    After all, why rush? If you are serious about the relationship, you will get married, eventually. Unless of course, you are not serious about the relationship. If that is so, why even have that relationship in the first place?
     
  14. MatthewDiscipleofGod

    MatthewDiscipleofGod Senior Veteran

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    Romans 1:29 and many other places (using KJV) talks about how fornication (sex before marriage) is bad. I know in the feel good world we live in (Satan sure has a large selection of tools to use on us in today's world) it's hard to achieve following this but it's something we need to work on, especialy in today's world. Even a nonchristian should see the problems that sex before marriage can bring (out of wedlock children, AIDS, strong emotional distress) and no protection besides no sex is 100%.
     
  15. fablesarereal

    fablesarereal Member

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    Everything is permissable just not all is benificial
    1 cor 10:23
     
  16. Susan

    Susan 退屈させた1 つ (bored one)

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    Not "everything." read earlier in Corinthians. Like chapter 6.
    This is my standard:
    No physical contact at all until you are married.
    No public displays of sensuality or even affection even after you are married.
    Nothing you would ever be ashamed of or feel horrible about anytime.
    Too bad not that many people where I live (U.S.) hold to such a standard. It would be a better place if they did. . .or maybe not. The sinners would still find a way to escape the rules. :(
     
  17. fablesarereal

    fablesarereal Member

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    I think if a date ends with "Let's see my shirt's on the lamp...are my shoes in the corner...And where did I put my pants?" you may have gone too far before marriage.
     
  18. fablesarereal

    fablesarereal Member

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    or for StogusMaximus..."Closer Hold me closer..."
     
  19. Slave2SinNoMore

    Slave2SinNoMore Active Member

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    I'm pretty surprised at some of the responses from Christians regarding the thread topic. I can only suppose that most of the Christians who think that heavy petting and near-intercourse are okay are teenagers or in their early twenties. But you should consider a few things about sexual impurity. I speak from experience. I'm 34 now and have been a christian for 22 years. I never wanted to have sex outside of marriage, but I went to far withone girl when I was 23, and she had a baby who died eight hours after birth.

    1)You are a NEW creation. When you became a Christian, your sin nature was crucfied with Christ, and the Holy Spirit moved in and empowered you to walk by faith. Why do you want to settle for walking in the flesh, when God's calling is for you to be pure and walking in the Spirit?

    2)You have heard it said "Hey, I'm a human. It's completely natutral. God understands. he's not gonna blame me for something I can't help". In fact, you may have said it yourself. Well, I've got to tell you that kind of thinking is a lie - straight from Satan's demons. They want you to believe that you'll never be free from impurity, so that you won't live up to God's standards. But you CAN be free! God doesn't want us to be wallowing in sin, and he doesn't excuse it. He gave you the Holy Spirit and made you a new creation. The old sin nature is dead! What you are obeying by being impure is one of 2 things (1)Lies whispered in your ears by demons or (2)old habits of the flesh. Your spirit, the new creation in you, wants to do live for God.

    So what to do about it? Give it up to God - realize that in your own human power you can't consistently overcome temptation, but by his power alone can you win the victory.
    Remember, "I can do ALL things through Christ, who strengthens me". That includes overcoming sexual temptation. Don't let yourself get into situations in which you can possibly "go too far". Don't let your hands stray. Don't kiss heavily, as that always spurs people into wanting more.

    Train your eyes at all times. You see a scantily-clad woman walking down the street? Turn your eyes away immediately. Don't risk taking that second glnce. Same with inappropriate clothing in movies. And Department store ads. Don't give sin a chance.

    Train your mind. If a crazy sexual thought hits you, remind yourself that you are a new creation and that you are not allowed to dwell on those thoughts, and that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. Don't dwell in the thought...replace it with worship for God.

    If you start to replace the bad habits with the new good habits (eye turning and worshipping), those new habits will come very easily to you - automatic even.

    There is a new series of books for men about overcoming sexual impurity. There is one for adults called "Every Man's Battle", one for teens (I think it is called "Every Teen's Battle" and another one. They're by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker. They are very good books that contain a good guide to winning the victory once and for all. They don'taddress the "new nature" aspect quite enough for my tastes, but they are very good, nonetheless.
     
  20. oncewaslost

    oncewaslost owl

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    i agree with you, slave2sinnomore.
     
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