Short story: my son “Jay” molested my step-son “Bill” (the incident happens twice and there was no penetration) at the time he was 11, and 7. This occurred about 4 years ago, he’s been in therapy (he’s had difficulties along the way but more so about behavior than acting out sexually) recently there was a an incident between Bill and his younger female siblings that it’s being recommended he no longer visit us (were out of state) if Jay is home. Basically it sounds like he’s never to have contact with him again. This will make family events difficult. My concern is how will this work in the long run? Jay has horrible guilt and has never done this since then. He went through a perpetrator program and was also in therapy for several months. I just don’t know what is the point in staying married. This situation has permanently affected everyone and Bill’s father is anxious for Jay to leave the home in 3 years (he’ll be 18). I just don’t understand, Jay and Bill now get along and Jay always wants to see Bill when he visits. I feel like a his guilt that he carries is also shared by me. Truly I want Jay to be healthy and good but If they feel the only way for Jay to be “ok” means my son and I forever be admonished. I also see my husband says he doesn’t hate Jay but I see things differently. It’s hard to mask it. I am just so saddened by all of it.