Excuse the length of my post please but I am just so ready to give up... I just don't know what to do Sitting here in my own home today I feel nothing more than empty and ashamed. Ashamed that I am still here and allowing myself to go through this. Nobody deserves this maybe I think somewhere I should allow myself to let Jeremy (my husband) pay me back for cheating on him-
But this goes way he beyond paying back. He has given up his responsibilities as a parent && left them all to me. He has lost his bond an attachment to Jagger (our 4yr old son) and I have overstepped my place as a parent by overcompensating (out of guilt) for leaving Jagger and Jeremy. I left my family over two years ago now for drugs. I went to jail && since I've been home (over a year ago) I have done everything in my power to be a good mother and wife.
I have allowed Jeremy to step down and I am partially responsible, but I am not responsible for all of Jeremy's actions. If Jeremy wanted to have a good marriage with me I feel he would. He would do what it took to build a good foundation. He would give Jagger a good role model instead of a bad example. If Jeremy cared about me he wouldn't call me the things he does. If Jeremy cared about Jaggers feelings he wouldn't make him think his mother is a worthless piece of sh*t and if he loves himself.... he would show his wife and son he loved them but , how can someone that doesn't even love themselves love someone else? Maybe they cant and maybe that's exactly why I feel no love and why I feel so alone and empty and 'un-met-in-the-middle' and maybe he's just in denial about that. I can't fix this because if I could I would have already done it and maybe even though Jeremy isn't on drugs like I was , he still has a rock-bottom to find himself because as it is now Jeremy doesn't know who he is at all... just like I didnt && maybe until he finds that out things will never change. I don't know if he loves me anymore... I'd like to think he does or else we wouldn't still be married... I just know I'm tired of being met with his 'problems' every time I come to him with the problem of this marriage. A marriage is give-and-take and his only response to the things I have to have from him in order to make this marriage better is SEX. I want to know how can someone that says I am his problem, I am the thorn in his side, I am the reason he is the way he is and does the way he does possibly want SEX from me? My only plea is that he help me with Jagger (raise him and discipline)... him stay off the phone (he text escorts at his rig, looks at inappropriate contentography && constantly plays video games) because even Jagger noticed he's on it 24/7... I just ask him to put forth the effort to make it work.
When I ask him to do all that he says "I'm not doing anything until my wife can SCEW me!" Won't it make things worse if we continue to have unintimate and disconnected sex? There's a wall built up around me because he never does a single thing I ask && I am so mentally and physically drained with the marriage I don't want to have sex with him. I'm not his wife in any other aspect of his life he even tells me to shut up when I ask him questions and tells me to get out of his business if I asked something he doesn't want to answer. What the heck! Which is it?? I am so confused I keep saying I'm staying for my son but he is doing poorly because of all this. My husband calls me a dope head, cu-t harlot b-tech DAILY && my son is learning the language He calls anybody those names... they just slip out cause he hears it ALL the time && he did not ASK TO!! He'll he 5 in September.... My husband speaks of sex constantly in front of him && how I won't do anything. It's very wierd/uncomfortable.
I love my husband...... I just do not like him at all right now and I haven't for a long time. I pray about this but I fear my worry and anxiety is getting in the way of praying purposefully. I just really need some advise and Iapologize again for this being so long but I HAD to get this off my chest and ask for help and even prayer because if anything my son badly needs to see a change in how his parents interact I would ask that all that take time to read please say a prayer for me and my family and thank you so much for reading.....
May God bless each && every one of you....
But this goes way he beyond paying back. He has given up his responsibilities as a parent && left them all to me. He has lost his bond an attachment to Jagger (our 4yr old son) and I have overstepped my place as a parent by overcompensating (out of guilt) for leaving Jagger and Jeremy. I left my family over two years ago now for drugs. I went to jail && since I've been home (over a year ago) I have done everything in my power to be a good mother and wife.
I have allowed Jeremy to step down and I am partially responsible, but I am not responsible for all of Jeremy's actions. If Jeremy wanted to have a good marriage with me I feel he would. He would do what it took to build a good foundation. He would give Jagger a good role model instead of a bad example. If Jeremy cared about me he wouldn't call me the things he does. If Jeremy cared about Jaggers feelings he wouldn't make him think his mother is a worthless piece of sh*t and if he loves himself.... he would show his wife and son he loved them but , how can someone that doesn't even love themselves love someone else? Maybe they cant and maybe that's exactly why I feel no love and why I feel so alone and empty and 'un-met-in-the-middle' and maybe he's just in denial about that. I can't fix this because if I could I would have already done it and maybe even though Jeremy isn't on drugs like I was , he still has a rock-bottom to find himself because as it is now Jeremy doesn't know who he is at all... just like I didnt && maybe until he finds that out things will never change. I don't know if he loves me anymore... I'd like to think he does or else we wouldn't still be married... I just know I'm tired of being met with his 'problems' every time I come to him with the problem of this marriage. A marriage is give-and-take and his only response to the things I have to have from him in order to make this marriage better is SEX. I want to know how can someone that says I am his problem, I am the thorn in his side, I am the reason he is the way he is and does the way he does possibly want SEX from me? My only plea is that he help me with Jagger (raise him and discipline)... him stay off the phone (he text escorts at his rig, looks at inappropriate contentography && constantly plays video games) because even Jagger noticed he's on it 24/7... I just ask him to put forth the effort to make it work.
When I ask him to do all that he says "I'm not doing anything until my wife can SCEW me!" Won't it make things worse if we continue to have unintimate and disconnected sex? There's a wall built up around me because he never does a single thing I ask && I am so mentally and physically drained with the marriage I don't want to have sex with him. I'm not his wife in any other aspect of his life he even tells me to shut up when I ask him questions and tells me to get out of his business if I asked something he doesn't want to answer. What the heck! Which is it?? I am so confused I keep saying I'm staying for my son but he is doing poorly because of all this. My husband calls me a dope head, cu-t harlot b-tech DAILY && my son is learning the language He calls anybody those names... they just slip out cause he hears it ALL the time && he did not ASK TO!! He'll he 5 in September.... My husband speaks of sex constantly in front of him && how I won't do anything. It's very wierd/uncomfortable.
I love my husband...... I just do not like him at all right now and I haven't for a long time. I pray about this but I fear my worry and anxiety is getting in the way of praying purposefully. I just really need some advise and Iapologize again for this being so long but I HAD to get this off my chest and ask for help and even prayer because if anything my son badly needs to see a change in how his parents interact I would ask that all that take time to read please say a prayer for me and my family and thank you so much for reading.....
May God bless each && every one of you....