I figure this forum will probably consist of the most cessationist, but please put this somewhere else if I am wrong.
I think our fellow members missed the fact your question was denomination specific and directed to the Reformed group, hence why you posted in the semper reformanda forum. No problem though.
My question is to understand from cessationists how God guides them to make decisions - where they will live, how to live out their vocation, etc.
As far as spiritual gifts are concerned, I think some have been made obsolete due to the fact they were only intended for the establishment of the church, like tongues and interpretation of tongues. Just my opinion.
Say you feel you would like to plant a church. How do you know you should? How do you know where you should? That sort of stuff.
Now a good specific example, and i will do my best to answer it.
The traditional Protestant position is Sola Scriptura in regard to leadership, we are not ruled over by a pope or so called spiritual superiors, like Roman Catholics and Eastern orthodox, respectively. Scripture is the final authority. So if a person claims to be called by God to plant a church that did not fit the criteria laid done by the Apostle Paul, that would mean someone is deceived or even worse telling lies. The spirit of God moved Paul to write those scriptures, so we know the source for his justification. So, how to check those who claim they are called, for example, a woman or a homosexual claims they are called to be a pastor. Once we have investigated the claim, tested it against the scripture we know there is a fallout, so this would mean the ''calling'' spirit is in contradiction with the divinely inspired scripture. So we then have to decide if scripture can be abrogated by denominational authority, and for all intents and purposes distrusting the scripture. Or we can accept the scripture as authoritative and reject any contradictory personal testimonies and follow the word of God, because it is the Reformed understanding that the word and spirit work together to produce good results. Regeneration is done by the word and spirit, Sanctification is done by word and spirit, so a person conflicting the two would be a false teacher and their calling a hoax, in my opinion and I think is pretty much in line with Reformed Protestant Position.
Hope that helps.
