I'm not sure this is the right forum to ask this question, but I don't know, so let's just get at it.
I am 35 years old and I don't have a partner or spouse. I've dated a bit in my twenties and was in love, however, that's not coming to me anymore. I guess I just don't fall in love again, and having a partnership without love seems pointless to me because I am by nature more romantic than practical.
So I've decided to stay alone, and this will probably remain this way for a long time. I'm able to see how God can send someone into my life, so it's not like I'm taking a vow on this, but so far staying single seems to be the logical conclusion for me.
But I've wondered about sexuality. Socially and spiritually, I am a mix of liberal and conservative. That is, I don't believe in inappropriate content or sleeping around and so when I stay single that means for me celibacy, practically. But the thing is, the sexual urges remain there for me. From my spirit I know that they are practically meaningless as sex is for marriage and real love and not just for the flesh, but the flesh is acting up and sometimes I need release so I can escape the whole sexual turmoil. For that reason I sometimes went into masturbation and inappropriate content. Recently I asked a christian group I know for prayer assistance and they prayed for two weeks and I got pretty much rid of the inappropriate content addiction and touch only maybe once or twice per week. But I still feel somewhat bad about it, not because of it being a sin, but because of it being a burden and an impurity that sidetracks me from true life.
Between 2008 and 2011 I had a time when I never masturbated and felt much better than now. I was not a neutrum and listened to love songs and felt excited about some women, but I just didn't touch and it felt better this way. I never watched inappropriate content either, it just did not interest me anymore. For a celibate single, that's probably ideal and I want to get back there.
Now my question is, how do you get there again? I'm tempted to say, just be strict to myself and not do it, but when I try that I get sex dreams at night or feel very aroused during the day. And consequently, it sidetracks me from God or makes me feel carnal.
Any advices? Anyone in the same boat here?
I am 35 years old and I don't have a partner or spouse. I've dated a bit in my twenties and was in love, however, that's not coming to me anymore. I guess I just don't fall in love again, and having a partnership without love seems pointless to me because I am by nature more romantic than practical.
So I've decided to stay alone, and this will probably remain this way for a long time. I'm able to see how God can send someone into my life, so it's not like I'm taking a vow on this, but so far staying single seems to be the logical conclusion for me.
But I've wondered about sexuality. Socially and spiritually, I am a mix of liberal and conservative. That is, I don't believe in inappropriate content or sleeping around and so when I stay single that means for me celibacy, practically. But the thing is, the sexual urges remain there for me. From my spirit I know that they are practically meaningless as sex is for marriage and real love and not just for the flesh, but the flesh is acting up and sometimes I need release so I can escape the whole sexual turmoil. For that reason I sometimes went into masturbation and inappropriate content. Recently I asked a christian group I know for prayer assistance and they prayed for two weeks and I got pretty much rid of the inappropriate content addiction and touch only maybe once or twice per week. But I still feel somewhat bad about it, not because of it being a sin, but because of it being a burden and an impurity that sidetracks me from true life.
Between 2008 and 2011 I had a time when I never masturbated and felt much better than now. I was not a neutrum and listened to love songs and felt excited about some women, but I just didn't touch and it felt better this way. I never watched inappropriate content either, it just did not interest me anymore. For a celibate single, that's probably ideal and I want to get back there.
Now my question is, how do you get there again? I'm tempted to say, just be strict to myself and not do it, but when I try that I get sex dreams at night or feel very aroused during the day. And consequently, it sidetracks me from God or makes me feel carnal.
Any advices? Anyone in the same boat here?