- Nov 28, 2019
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Hey,
Got divorced last year and am fully and totally broken in my heart from it still. My wife walked away from God and divorced me. God delivered me through it and I found joy in him and his word which was a really great season. However I was suppressing all of the pain so so so much.
I lost a ton of weight and have a job girls like and I met someone through work. She is really cool, and I’m really enjoying her friendship. However she isn’t a believer and we are both definitely attracted to eachother.
She is not a Christian. I’m never getting married again for the rest of my life, and I wouldn’t marry N unbeliever but it really feels good to have someone care about me and want to spend time with me. Just spending time with her made me realize how much pain from the loss of my marriage I am holding in and covering up with positivity and avoidance.
I want to do what’s right and honor God. But it seems so sad to have to like arbitrarily stop my friendship with this person. Or not be able to casually date her.
Our relationship is not physical. I believe I can keep that issue out but I know that’s probably the biggest reason why it’s dangerous to date anyone in general especially an unbeliever. I feel like it’s not fair to my friend to like keep spending a lot of time with her and develop this deeper friendship when I’m so messed up. BTS I told her all this stuff and she still wants to date it’s not like I’m being sneaky or anything. she also isn’t saved and ever since I was younger I have been taught by my parents and church not to date unbelievers. Even casually...because you can’t marry them so what’s the point? Well I don’t want to marry anyone and I like this person. She’s fun and makes me feel happy and cared for every time I’m with her.
I know I’m supposed to find healing and joy and support in Christ and not relationships. Especially not ones with other believers but not spending time with her would be really painful and depressing and I don’t want to.
Jesus is the most important thing in my life and that’s not so for this other person.
Please pray for me and help me.
In Him,
J
Got divorced last year and am fully and totally broken in my heart from it still. My wife walked away from God and divorced me. God delivered me through it and I found joy in him and his word which was a really great season. However I was suppressing all of the pain so so so much.
I lost a ton of weight and have a job girls like and I met someone through work. She is really cool, and I’m really enjoying her friendship. However she isn’t a believer and we are both definitely attracted to eachother.
She is not a Christian. I’m never getting married again for the rest of my life, and I wouldn’t marry N unbeliever but it really feels good to have someone care about me and want to spend time with me. Just spending time with her made me realize how much pain from the loss of my marriage I am holding in and covering up with positivity and avoidance.
I want to do what’s right and honor God. But it seems so sad to have to like arbitrarily stop my friendship with this person. Or not be able to casually date her.
Our relationship is not physical. I believe I can keep that issue out but I know that’s probably the biggest reason why it’s dangerous to date anyone in general especially an unbeliever. I feel like it’s not fair to my friend to like keep spending a lot of time with her and develop this deeper friendship when I’m so messed up. BTS I told her all this stuff and she still wants to date it’s not like I’m being sneaky or anything. she also isn’t saved and ever since I was younger I have been taught by my parents and church not to date unbelievers. Even casually...because you can’t marry them so what’s the point? Well I don’t want to marry anyone and I like this person. She’s fun and makes me feel happy and cared for every time I’m with her.
I know I’m supposed to find healing and joy and support in Christ and not relationships. Especially not ones with other believers but not spending time with her would be really painful and depressing and I don’t want to.
Jesus is the most important thing in my life and that’s not so for this other person.
Please pray for me and help me.
In Him,
J