JaneKaty13 said:
I have a Pocket Bible that I carry everywhere with me, but I try not to make it conspicuous. I read it during lunch sometimes, but usually I eat alone anyway. I don't want people approaching me about it. Heck, I don't want people approaching me at school AT ALL. I'm very shy in real life and I never know what to say when people come up to me. I already have a rep for being the "Christian Virgin Goody-Goody Jesus Freak" because for history class we had to debate abortion in front of the school, and I spoke on behalf of pro-life. I prepared a very thourough presentation, but the minute I quoted Exodus, I was booed off the stage. These popular girls came up to me afterwards and told me to keep my rosaries off of their ovaries. I'm thinking, "Have fun being a harlot and a murderer too!" Gosh they bother me! People have been periodically bugging me about it ever since. I just tell them "I respect your beliefs, please respect mine."
My wife and I were both virgins when we got married. I tell my sons to marry virgins too and not to have sex until they get married. Men want to marry a virgin. Don't settle for dating just any guys. Date only men who live for God and who love Jesus Christ more than they love you.
The best thing you can do is be confident when you are harrassed. Enjoy it. Don't be ashamed. The football team at USC in the 1980s had several Christian players who were virgins and proud of it. When interviewed in the press, they said they gloried in it.
A teen girl was teased by her sexually active friends and she said "I can be like you anytime, but you can never be like me."
Most teens are virgins when they graduate from high school now. That is the trend and abstinance education is working.
In debates let the crowd boo, but ask for more time for your side to offer your views. Be silent and wait until the booing is over. Be confident. You are the center of attention and this is your shining hour. You don't need to speak. Your confident manner will impress and prove your case to the vast undecided in the audience. If you are confident, they will remember you. And that will matter when they consider abortion for themselves.
The secret to changing the culture is to force the general culture to become acclimated to hearing your message. The first time they hear it they boo. After a few dozen times they have nothing more they can say. That is how we conservative Christians have won the battle for prolife in America. It took us nearly 40 years, but we have won the battle of values and eventually we will win the legal issues.
Also you need to bring allies with you (not to presuade others, but to support you emotionally). Christian young men - dedicated to Jesus Christ - want Godly Christian friends. We also have a protective instinct as males. Explain to them alone in a Christian club meeting or on the phone how you feel emotionally. Their protective instincts will kick in. They are God's gift to you. That can help in school.
Also use the Christian Club's at your school to post on the school bulletin board and public address system and hold some meetings on a Christian perspective on sex and family and values and love etc..
Don't think that most of the so-called Christians in any city or school are really born again. Many people who think they are Christians have never had a personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ. I strongly recommend you attend a conservative, Bible-believing church that strongly supports Bible values. Don't attend or give money to a so-called Christian church that doesn't support your Bible-based views on sex and morals.
When I was in college I have several roommates. Most were non-believers. The guys in the dorm knew of my faith and knew I dated Christian girls but did not have sex with them. In a dorm talk session one asked my why not. I told him that when you have sex with a girl you are emotionally bonded with her, and that lasts for life and I don't want that with anyone but my wife. He was a guy who had lots of girls, and he said he could understand my reasons. He said if he had it to do over he'd do a lot of things differently.
The problem with bonding - becoming one emotionally - is that God made people to be especially loyal to the first seuxal partner. That one is special. And when you have sex with others, your mind goes back to the first. That creates a lot of conflicts and loyalty problems. I don't have that problem nor does my Christian wife. We are loyal and faithful and in love. You will find this out later in life. Sex outside of marriage would be one of the worst sins and mistakes you can make. You will be glad for obeying God more and more over life. I recommend it.
Finally Josh McDowell speaks a lot at public schools. He tells males that they don't really want sex as much as they want intimacy, that is, someone who cares for them. They usually agree.
Well hope this helps. Remember we are winning the war of ideas culturally.
May I suggest something else? I have not felt led to do this, but God has led my old friends back into my life over the years. Some have become belivers in Christ! Wonderful. Others have ruined their lives and marriages. How sad. I am still friends and pray for several of them as God places them on my heart. Perhaps you would consider tracking the very people who booed you. Keep in touch every decade or so. They will know you are a true friend, or atleast a resource. There will come times in their lives when they realize they made a mess of their lives, or tragedy will strike and they need answers. They will listen to you then.
Merry Christmas