We need to know right from wrong, so that we do not also join in what is wrong. And it is wrong to have a wrong desire or preference in our heart. Jesus wants our hearts to favor all which is pleasing to our Father.
Therefore, I have been so deeply wrong, by self-righteously criticizing wrong people. I even have welcomed news of very evil things in churches, so that I could say oh yes those groups are fake and wrong. And hypocrisy is possibly more wrong than how one wants use people to get pleasure.
And, by the way, I am being corrected that love does not have me only using any person. So, any sexual preference could be wrong, if it is about using people for pleasure!!
The scriptures give us help for how to find out how to love, including > Ephesians 5:21, Ephesians 4:31-5:2, Colossians 3:13, 1 Peter 5:3, 1 Peter 3:8-9.
It is right to love and have hope for any and all people. Because Jesus suffered and died like He did, on Calvary's cross, with hope for any evil person, at all. So, we have hope for God to correct any person out of any wrong thing, at all, so the person becomes reconciled with God and becomes strong in loving any and all people as oneself.
So, in case a church person gets committed to making a project of hating gays and looking down on them, this can keep the person from discovering how Jesus has us love.
We have our own wrongs to deal with.
"For the time has come for judgment to begin at the house of God; and if it begins with us first, what will be the end of those who do not obey the gospel of God?" (1 Peter 4:17)
So, if we make a project of giving attention only or mainly to how gays are wrong, this could be a slick trick of Satan to keep our attention away from how we ourselves need God's real correction and how He has us become able to love.
"if you love those who love you, what reward have you?" Jesus does say, in Matthew 5:46. But I can have ways of picking and choosing who is good enough for me to love and have hope for that person.
What can help is we ourselves seek our Heavenly Father's correction > Hebrews 12:4-11 < then with God discover how He has us loving, and be examples of how God has corrected us to get into real loving. And what we have learned and gained is what any other wrong person needs. And God uses example