Pretty much. Prior to my engagement with the Bible at age 17, I had acculturated to some aspects of Hefner's Playboy Philosophy. (Where were my parents? They were busy taking care of life's problems........I didn't learn much of anything about monogamy from them.)
Ok. I just don't think men are justified in having a 'double standard' in sexual practices. Women more often than not, are looking for relationships (which is a good thing). Guys many times, if given the moral latitude, will become autonomous amoral agents who are just looking for an ongoing progression of improvement in sexual stimulation; not only is one woman not enough, men are looking for a 'better' model to replace the one they've previuosly acquired. Sounds like a crappy deal for women in my estimation.
That's a good thing, Khalliqa. Me too.
Re- your preadolescent playboy exposure and subsequent intro. to monogamy through bible- thank god? I'll let the fact that I said that soak in a sec.
Re: double standard- I think men -in general- are biologically oriented to procreate and women -in general- seek stability. But our sexual drives are not so consistent and relegated not are they always in harmony with social mores and values. both men and women will go through a period or periods of heightened sexuality and at varying times in their life. Couple that with the desires created by special chemistry within a pluralistic diverse secular society and you have a mix of everything. Going on both beneficial and harmful. I'm not interested in regulation I'm interested in honesty and communication with those that matter.
Here's something controversial there are times where I've seen healthy exploration especially when a woman has gone through trauma and was throwing herself at anything that loved as a result of low self esteem. Experience ending in love in different forms helped her develop trust and discover her sense of control. Would I advocate that for a young girl? Nope. Would I suggest that to all women who go through trauma? Nope. But it worked for her and she came out of it healthy. If it was with men she'd known and trusted and they all remain friends albeit with different partners.
In fact advocating this to a trauma victim who does not display certain traits would be damaging.
And yes size matters and not always in the good way. Watching women suffer leads me to believe that just saying be pure til marriage or be looked st as a white or less than can't be the answer not can the answer br to do every man that's available-mainly because *ouch*
Also society stigmatizes all of women's experiences. Too prudish too sexual without context without understanding what a woman's experiences do for her.
Then there are men who are raped and come out feeling like men and those that feel something was stolen from them and I mean raised by grown women
I'm less interested in the rates of occurrence than the fact that they occur and our experiences matter they shape us.
My point is the rigidity with which society judges our intimate lives is infantile and often narcissistic.
This was typed on a very small smart phone so please excuse errors
