Can A Christian...Remarry---Part 2

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Continued from Remarriage Part 1—concluding part

There may be cases of young and unfortunate widows who need support with remarriages. They may have children to support. A remarriage with a divorced man may light up their lives. Or a remarriage with a poor virgin girl sustains a desirable life. What could be better than this? If a woman had been unjustly divorced, then it will be a good thing if a man married her irrespective of his background.
Sex is the strongest built-in urge, given by God, which both man and beast experience. Therefore, God can understand this weakness in a person. David committed adultery culminating in deliberate ending of the life of a person. Nevertheless, he was greatly used by God for other positive attributes of him. It is not that I want to quote this as precedent to seek forgiveness for such kinds of grave sins! What I mean is that one should not think that broken marriage is the end of life of a person! He may find another genuine person who can help in the rest of his life. The person might have been unjustly treated in a previous marriage. Here is an opportunity to make good what was missing in the previous arrangement. Life should go on. One broken relationship should not become a dead end. It should be treated as a bend meant for deviation to get back to a new life. Our life should not be allowed to be decided or ruined by a wicked and egoist person. We should allow God to work on us; certainly, He can understand our needs, weaknesses and feelings.

Clergy and ministers who have not really received any authority from Jesus Christ to marry two people, cannot say they cannot grant divorce to a couple when one of them violated the vows of marriage and not willing to repent sincerely with humility even advised several times by the elders involved and concerned.
All are not like Socrates. Perhaps, he became a philosopher married to a shrew! How can the world run effectively and usefully if all became philosophers?
An ideal wife is clearly pictured in Proverbs 31:10-31 as follows:
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates” (Proverbs 31:10-31).

Of course, it may not be always possible to get a woman as wife who will satisfy all the characteristics listed above. There ought to be ‘give’ and ‘take’ policy to keep the family chariot moving without bumps and breakdowns. It should not be ‘you give’ and ‘I take’ condition all the time!
“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands” (Proverbs 14:1).
A righteous man will have to detach himself from a wife who is driven by a devilish intent of destroying the family to satisfy her satanic ways, desires and means.
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Is this your answer to those who have maintained that remarried people are living in unrepentant adultery and are condemned?
Marriage is secondary for spiritual life. Considering that as holy is the basic problem.Such people should not take up the responsible posts in a church.
 
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Marriage is secondary for spiritual life. Considering that as holy is the basic problem.Such people should not take up the responsible posts in a church.
That's what the Corinthians believed and they were divorcing their wives right left and centre for that very reason! That is why Paul commented on divorce to them, to stop them doing that!
 
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In my opinion, in the vast majority of cases a successful marriage completes two human lives and constitutes a great background for leadership roles in the church --- for either or both parties in that marriage.
 
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No holds barred in self-claims!
He might have the same right to claim Christian faith as you have! But the Scripture says, "The foundation stands sure; God knows who are His." That is why Paul refused to judge himself, but left the judgment to Christ Himself. So, if we can't reliably judge ourselves whether we are truly in the faith or not, how can we ever judge others?
 
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That's what the Corinthians believed and they were divorcing their wives right left and centre for that very reason! That is why Paul commented on divorce to them, to stop them doing that!
What do you expect from ungodly Gentiles? Paul appears to have worked out a practical solution on his own.
 
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He might have the same right to claim Christian faith as you have! But the Scripture says, "The foundation stands sure; God knows who are His." That is why Paul refused to judge himself, but left the judgment to Christ Himself. So, if we can't reliably judge ourselves whether we are truly in the faith or not, how can we ever judge others?
Righteous judgement is a must. Reprimanding and encouraging should show the way.
 
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What do you expect from ungodly Gentiles? Paul appears to have worked out a practical solution on his own.
These were not ungodly Gentiles. He was writing the the Corinthian Christian church! The the first two verse of the book and you will see clearly who the letter was written to.
 
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Righteous judgement is a must. Reprimanding and encouraging should show the way.
Who is qualified to give righteous judgment? The Scripture says there are none righteous, no, not one. Only those who have never sinned can give righteous judgment for another person.
 
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These were not ungodly Gentiles. He was writing the the Corinthian Christian church! The the first two verse of the book and you will see clearly who the letter was written to.
Gentiles had no inkling of the Law in majority cases. Paul wrote keeping their background in mind; he did not write to you and me!
 
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Who is qualified to give righteous judgment? The Scripture says there are none righteous, no, not one. Only those who have never sinned can give righteous judgment for another person.
We have the yardstick to judge with words of Jesus.
 
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Yeah, self-claims cannot be contested because they are rootless.

An oxymoron because you are contesting them so by your logic they must be rooted.

I have no idea why you have chosen me to vent your frustrations on.
 
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We have the yardstick to judge with words of Jesus.

Yeah for instance
Matthew 7 [Full Chapter]
[ Judging Others ] “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? …

Luke 6:37
[ Judging Others ] “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.

John 5:24
“Very truly I tell you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not be judged but has crossed over from death to life.

John 8 New International Version (NIV)
8 1 but Jesus went to the Mount of Olives.
2 At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them.3 The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group 4 and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” 6 They were using this question as a trap,in order to have a basis for accusing him.
But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. 7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her. 8 Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.

9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”

11 “No one, sir,” she said.

“Then neither do I condemn you, Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”
 
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Yeah for instance
Matthew 7 [Full Chapter]
[ Judging Others ] “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? …

Luke 6:37
[ Judging Others ] “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.

John 5:24
“Very truly I tell you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not be judged but has crossed over from death to life.

John 8 New International Version (NIV)
8 1 but Jesus went to the Mount of Olives.
2 At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them.3 The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group
4 and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” 6 They were using this question as a trap,in order to have a basis for accusing him.
But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger.
7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her. 8 Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.

9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”

11 “No one, sir,” she said.

“Then neither do I condemn you, Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”

Did not Jesus whip out business people in temple complex? Did he not condemn the hypocrites of Judaism?
 
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