Can A Christian....Divorce --Part 3

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Concluding part on divorce.

One can say if wife was not submissive and does not accept the godly leading of the husband in the family, husband is right in divorcing such a wife. God has done that. If a husband does not protect a submissive wife and does not love her, then wife has no option but to separate from her husband and seek a secular divorce since clergy is unjustly one sided in that it arranges marriage for the revenue it receives and does not bother to nullify if justified for the transgression of the spirit of the Law.
“Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets” (Matthew 7:12).
We are all accountable to God. We know the righteous conduct expected between husband and wife. Transgression is bound to lead to a secular divorce when all amicable and reasonable attempts made to patch up the relationship fail. After all, as indicated before, marriage is not meant for leading a miserable life when each one can contribute great things in serving the Lord directly or through a society.
A divorced man or woman cannot accept the organizational responsibilities of a Church, that is to say, becoming a deacon or elder with responsibilities.
In India, secular laws are very much biased in favoring wives. This has led to bad misuse of the same by many wives. This damaging situation has been expressed time and again by judges at all levels of judiciary. A wife can easily implicate an innocent husband and put him in jail with a false charge of dowry. It is difficult to get bail and he has to languish in prison.

Typically, in Indian society, son and daughter-in-law live with the son’s parents for support in their advanced age. A daughter-in-law can again falsely charge the in-laws for domestic violence and put them into prison with no bail available.
Some Helplines established to protect a battered wife genuinely, fail to understand the merit and demerits of each case that is delicate uniquely, and, therefore, instead of trying to solve and patch up the broken marriage, they aggravate the problem by trying to threaten the innocent husband and his parents with false charges to favor themselves in the process of forced settlements with share in the spoils.
Under normal circumstances, a divorce is not available to women, and that was clarified by Paul, “But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away” (1 Corinthians 7:11-12).

When godly man and woman come together and marry based on the biblical expectations in their relationship, there is no question of divorce. Nevertheless, if one person were to indulge in deeds that are contrary to the law of Christ, namely, compassion, mercy and forgiveness, then divorce is a must. Again if one were to remain adamant and refuse to repent and confess, then divorce is a way out. We have the backing of the Scripture for that:

“Woe unto the world because of offences! for it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh!
Wherefore if thy hand or thy foot offend thee, cut them off, and cast them from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life halt or maimed, rather than having two hands or two feet to be cast into everlasting fire.
And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire” (Matthew 18:7-9).
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The Bible says the only grounds for divorce is if your spouse cheats on you, but seen that God doesn't divorce us when we cheat on Him, we should do everything to forgive and reconcile with our spouse. Paul does speak about letting a unbelieving spouse go if they want to leave.

Matthew 19:8-9 NLT
Jesus replied, “Moses permitted divorce only as a concession to your hard hearts, but it was not what God had originally intended. [9] And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery— unless his wife has been unfaithful. ”

Hosea 1:2 NLT
When the LORD first began speaking to Israel through Hosea, he said to him, “Go and marry a prostitute, so that some of her children will be conceived in prostitution. This will illustrate how Israel has acted like a prostitute by turning against the LORD and worshiping other gods.”

This is Paul rule, not Jesus's rule

1 Corinthians 7:12-17 NLT
Now, I will speak to the rest of you, though I do not have a direct command from the Lord. If a fellow believer has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her. [13] And if a believing woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him. [14] For the believing wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the believing husband brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not be holy, but now they are holy. [15] (But if the husband or wife who isn’t a believer insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the believing husband or wife is no longer bound to the other, for God has called you to live in peace.) [16] Don’t you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you? And don’t you husbands realize that your wives might be saved because of you? [17] Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches.
 
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The Bible says the only grounds for divorce is if your spouse cheats on you, but seen that God doesn't divorce us when we cheat on Him, we should do everything to forgive and reconcile with our spouse. Paul does speak about letting a unbelieving spouse go if they want to leave.

Matthew 19:8-9 NLT
Jesus replied, “Moses permitted divorce only as a concession to your hard hearts, but it was not what God had originally intended. [9] And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery— unless his wife has been unfaithful. ”

Hosea 1:2 NLT
When the LORD first began speaking to Israel through Hosea, he said to him, “Go and marry a prostitute, so that some of her children will be conceived in prostitution. This will illustrate how Israel has acted like a prostitute by turning against the LORD and worshiping other gods.”

This is Paul rule, not Jesus's rule

1 Corinthians 7:12-17 NLT
Now, I will speak to the rest of you, though I do not have a direct command from the Lord. If a fellow believer has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her. [13] And if a believing woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him. [14] For the believing wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the believing husband brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not be holy, but now they are holy. [15] (But if the husband or wife who isn’t a believer insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the believing husband or wife is no longer bound to the other, for God has called you to live in peace.) [16] Don’t you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you? And don’t you husbands realize that your wives might be saved because of you? [17] Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches.
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This is Paul rule, not Jesus's rule
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Be careful there.

What Paul is actually saying is that in one case he is repeating a direct teaching by Jesus (Matthew 19).

In the other case, he's not actually quoting Jesus because Jesus never said anything about a believer married to a pagan. But Paul is still speaking instruction received through the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 7:40) for those who are in such a situation.
 
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