I have a friendship that has been a burden to me for years. It's with a pen pal and though we've been friends over 17 years we've never met in person. I'm being treated as a journal and I've tried everything to increase better communication but I just keep getting excuses from my pen pal as to why my pen pal ( who used to write me very long emails and then very long texts) doesn't have time to talk on the phone. If I call and leave a message I don't get a call back. If I try to arrange talk time I get excuses. I've tried to arrange a time for us to meet in person and all I'm getting is excuses. How do I cut off the friendship? Over the years, responding to the very long messages has always been a burden but after I gave my life to Christ I tried to show the love of Christ, but the friendship is not growing at all, I don't feel like this friend knows me very well and I've gotten signs that this friend can be vindictive and angry, doing things to get back at me like "forgetting" to wish me Happy Birthday after I mixed up her birthday missing it by 1 day, not sending me a birthday card on my birthday, which is our usual habit, making excuses to not wish me a happy birthday on the day of, getting mad at me for not telling her things, etc. I'm just tired of this friendship now. Should I cut her off cold turkey or should I try to explain why I don't want to be friends? Or do I keep her as an acquaintance?