It didn't make me cry.
Therefore, the playlist was deleted.
What do you find that is helpful?
I don't have that many experiences with breakups but right now the biggest things I have learned and have helped me to cope compared to the past.
1.) I read that it takes about half the time of the relationship to cope or recover. So for me I'm thinking three and a half weeks I'm almost there.
2.) Prayer and accountability. From the beginning of dating everyone was covering it with prayer and also after.
3.) Accidentally signed up with an online dating site, long story, but there have been guys who have just been there to encourage me in my walk and faith with no intentions beyond.
4.) I've immediately surrounded myself with my girlfriends for fellowship. And keeping myself connected.
5.) Keeping up with my garden and yard also has been very relaxing.
6.) I had a mini retreat a week ago 40-60 ft in the air on a perch overlooking the Galien River. I spent almost two hours reading the book of Proverbs.
7.) I've kept a notebook nearby to write down things that I had heard from the Lord. I took 12 days before and after the breakup to just listen to the Lord. No music in the morning as I got ready for work.
8.)I'm keeping myself healthy with my running and nutrition and water intake. I've been traveling and planning places for special runs. I've had a few where somebody joins me also. Just basically living on life and I've posted on social media to continue some kind of normal without any indication of what has happened.
9.) All the things we talked about for the future I basically found a way to do those things or will be doing those things with friends. Also I haven't let what happened limit me, and I just did a challenging incline run in the area of the where the guy lives 45 minutes from me. I will also be camping there next Saturday with a friend. 8 years ago we had camped there and we are looking forward to the fellowship and something we both have been wanting to do for a long time. That's an example of something the guy I went on dates with was talking about doing with me.
10.) Covering everything in prayer and little by little having a reset in my relationship with the Lord. Also confessing any sin that took place during that time. For me it was idolatry and my work ethic declined. He drew me more away from the Lord then towards. So I am returning to my first love, Jesus.
11.) Others that have prayed for me and been there this whole time have been speaking truth and wisdom into my life. it's been amazing and a much better break up then I have experienced in much of my past.
12.)I told the person that broke up with me from the beginning if we were not a long-term match that we would always be good friends. And at the break of I told him the same thing but I have distanced myself. I believe time will heal and I will be okay hopefully in a better place to encourage and pray for him and his future (relationship with the Lord and possibly a suitable helpmate). Right now I cannot pray for him and I have just let my friends pray for him.
13.) as far as crying the most useful information I got from a longtime friend and sister in Christ was to cry it out for 2 to 3 minutes max and move on. so it's been in short increments. I also have to watch my health since I have a compromised immune system that I will go into a deep sickness if I cry too much. It happened in 2012 when a guy chose another girl that had been interested in me, but our schedules conflicted that I couldn't let him pursue.
15.) This is definitely not something God honoring but I am watching a very worldly TV series that is from 2009 possibly. Part of it is trying to understand what privileged life is like. I got the DVDs from the library and also got some books. It's two part in growing in my knowledge of some things and also understanding the person that I was dating before. It's been a bit of a stress relief since I only watch movies maybe four times a year and I don't watch TV. for those who watch TV all the time I wouldn't recommend this but trying to explore something new that is different and helps you to learn.
16.) I'm also focusing on house & yard projects that maybe have fallen behind because of the time that a relationship takes.
Anyways I know that is long but I hope that there is a sliver of useful information that may be helpful to someone reading this. I'm really not there yet in letting go, but I trust that it will happen as each morning I wake up I've been stronger in Jesus.
