So did I. Interesting. Our whole family left together and moved to the LCMS, but it's interesting (at least to me) how it happened.
I had a different family background. My dad's family was irreligious going way back, one of those not too rare examples of Oklahoma farmers who had a hyper-pragmatic view of life to the point that religious piety had no place. One time I remember my grandpa talking about his dad telling him "boys, be nice to these folks because they talk over their 'taters", in reference to saying grace. My dad actually was not baptized until he became an adult. He's only occasionally been very active in church (I think he spent most of his energy on his career only to be frustrated by hitting a glass wall as an officer because he wasn't a pilot). My mom's family was much more devout and historically Methodist, specifically United Brethren (German-American Wesleyans). So as you can see my family's religious background is a compromise, with people settling on a middle ground that didn't demand too much.
Yep. That mirrors my experience exactly. Our Methodist church let anyone commune, so kids started as soon as they were on solid food.
I'm actually OK with that practice. It's normal in the Orthodox church I used to attend, even little babies would get Communion out of the spoon. As they get older, they get age-appropriate instruction in what it means, but the grace isn't seen as dependent on people understanding it intellectually.
Remember I briefly talked about legalism? That's the reason I don't go to an Orthodox church anymore. The more I dealt with ascetic struggle and the seemingly conflicting demands of trying to be a good Christian, the more I had serious issues with the subtle legalism I encountered. This may not be true of all Orthodox, I doubt it is, but the place I was at had a priest that was formerly PCA Presbyterian that ran into trouble with his elders a few times, and he was very much into the Orthodox ascetical ideal and very perfectionistic. Questioning anything was a sign of not being committed. It was a very damaging experience.
I still have icons and candles at home and a lot of private Orthodox piety. So I guess I just see the ELCA parish I attend as a refuge from a bad church experience. The pastor I have is Greek-German-American married to a Catholic so in some ways, he embodied a lot of the paradoxes of my own faith journey. The main thing I appreciate about the church is there is nothing harsh about it (except maybe the coffee!), it's just a place to go and worship God in a liturgical setting.
Of course the LCMS has it struggles. Specifically, Confessional Lutherans struggle with vocation (Christian Life) because legalism is so strongly opposed. But I much prefer it to the church of my youth.
The ELCA is influenced more by Scandinavian pietism so there isn't as much a problem with that sort of thing, holiness is not a dirty word, even if it is not thought of in Methodist terms ("don't drink, don't smoke, be nice"). The important difference for me is the fact that they don't neglect to preach the Gospel. Some Wesleyans have the attitude that the Gospel is only something that new people need to hear, and my experience is that it is not, just the opposite: the more mature a Christian you become, the more you need to hear it. I also appreciate the fact that the Gospel is presented as being less about any particular view of atonement, though the Cross is still the center of it, at least at the parish I go to.
Something that helped me understand the place of vocation and works in the Christian life isn't even written by a Lutheran or an Orthodox Christian. It was reading Therese of Lisieux's
Story of a Soul. I guess I struggle with perfectionistic tendencies myself so that is a message relevant to me. A spirituality that is about doing the little things in life that need to be done, but doing them with a lot of love, is something I need to hear sometimes. One quote of hers comes to mind "At last I have found my vocation. My vocation is love... I will be love, and then I will be all things.”