Big old ball of Desire

[athrun5]

Don't bother in replying to this thread I was tired of waiting for the admins to make up there minds so I got my answers in another thread

 

[truefiction1]

In the past I asked if touching yourself is a sin or something along those lines. I am not here to ask that anymore but the problem I am having is stopping. If I don't look at these things and I don't watch things at all, what happens is that I after a while get this feeling inside that is...... horny.... I don't try to arouse myself or anything but I mean how am I suppose to stop if I get this way even if I am not looking at girls or looking at appealing images.

I looked on YouTube and a lot of people say if you know God you will stop PERIOD and there won't be any struggle they are making it seem while saying that you are going to go to hell if you don't stop because the bible does say to abstain from sexual immorality.

I think of what Paul said in the bible not sure where it was but it said something like its better to not get married but if you struggle with lust that its better to get married then to commit sexual immorality. Also where is says to not stop between a husband and wife unless agreed upon for a short while so that then they don't get a big overwhelming ball of desire in them that allows the evil one to come and try to devour you. However in this day and age getting a proper wife is HARD. I am 26 and I haven't even been able to find a girl to go on my first date ever.

I feel as if marriage is my only option but the fact that I seem like as I am getting older I am less and less likely to get my first date and when I do I will if be married by the time I hit 40s to 60s.... I can't wait that long I could die any day. So what do I do?

FYI please don't say its not a sin because unless I am thinking of a tree or a meadow or like things Jesus says anyone who looks at a women with lust commits adultery in there heart.

Is there some particular reason you haven't ever dated any girls?

 

[athrun5]

Is there some particular reason you haven't ever dated any girls?

Well I was homeschooled since I was in grade 7 so good bye highschool and I moved away to an area with noone my age till I was 19. At such time I had no friends for 6 years and couldnt really date. At 17 my grandpa had a heartattack and his daughters were trying to kill him so my mother took him in as a dying promise to her mother and when she went to work I looked after him(poorly). After that I moved to a rural area with my mother and apparently we were the most hated people in the area because my mother was a divorced mother. So no friends for about 2 years then I made friends and they moved away shortly after and now I am alone again for the last 4 years.

 

[God's Child]

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