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While making the post above, I was convicted for my intentions of seeking a woman over the years. It's been for selfish reasons and desires: to satisfy my deep need of love and satisfaction, to overcome feelings of loneliness and for enjoyment that would come from selfish gain. This sermon is a wake-up call for me as to how much commitment, dedication, responsibility, work and selflessness it takes to have a wife.
Marriage can also be a very powerful form of sanctification, which I also had desired and expected. But I think our enjoyment should come from being Christ-like to our spouse. It's not about what we can take but what we can give. If God brings His daughter into our life for the purpose of marriage, we better treat her well and reflect Jesus' character. He will hold us to a high standard.
I'm sure there are mature Christians out there who reflect Jesus' love to varying measures. But I don't believe they'll be able to love their spouse perfectly. The way I see it, that's the point of marriage. It's not about two perfect people coming together to love each other without fault. Rather it's a form of sanctification in which they learn to love each other unconditionally as Jesus loves them. That's why they make vows in public witness, so that they are kept to those vows when inevitable trials arise.Exactly and I feel like most of people are seeking person who can give them what they need rather than loving this person unconditionally. I feel like it’s impossible to find someone who loves unconditionally. I haven’t ever experienced that. It’s always someone who wants to use. But these are important lessons anyway. I know that God will make me wait that I can be the best woman for my future husband before I meet him. Or maby I don’t, some people live only for God and that is enough.
I'm sure there are mature Christians out there who reflect Jesus' love to varying measures. But I don't believe they'll be able to love their spouse perfectly. The way I see it, that's the point of marriage. It's not about two perfect people coming together to love each other without fault. Rather it's a form of sanctification in which they learn to love each other unconditionally as Jesus loves them. That's why they make vows in public witness, so that they are kept to those vows when inevitable trials arise.
From my experience, God seems to bring a partner into the life of a believer when they aren't looking for one, ironically. When a Christian is so obsessed with Jesus that they aren't concerned with finding a spouse, that seems to be when God moves. Perhaps it's not perfection that makes a believer ready for marriage, but rather a strongly-rooted relationship of trust, communication and dependence on God, and some level of spiritual maturity and fruit-bearing in their lives.