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Hello,
I didn't want to come here and bog you all down with my troubles but i've been feeling the need to get on here and share this stuff though it's personal. So here it goes...
I am about to be divorced from an 11 year marriage, I have four chlldren from that marriage. I left my husband though he didn't want me to last march and last october he filed for a divorce and i have a court date the end of this month and i'll say it'll be a relief to finally be done with it. But this whole situation has been hard.
During this past year of my seperation i had met and dated a guy from a dating site.. we didn't hook up because we were christians, but turned out we both were but well we both have issues and it just hasn't worked out. So since my seperation i've been up and down with this guy who i still love and probably have a soul tie with. I got pregnant on accident last may and well the baby died in utero i found out at my 19 week ultrasound and delivered her oct. 10th. But a month before that my boyfriend and I had broken up and he at times denied the baby was his and wasn't wiling to have anything to do with it, and then he'd say he'd be there and he was so back and forth not to mention that although some days he'd tell me he loved me, other days i wouldn't hear from him because he was chasing after another girl.
So even after i lost the baby he moved back in with me this last month and things were a little stressful but in our relationship going great until one night we got in a fight, were drinking and he choked and hit me and so i called the police and now he lives in another state and is not allowed to even talk to me, though we still talk from time to time.. we still love eachtoher even there our relationship has been so up and down..
And so now i'm alone again... since i met that guy my heart and energy had been spent praying for him, loving him and trying to be wtih him and make it work.
Now I am alone. And this is where i knew i really needed to be since the day i left my husband. But it is hard. These past few months i have really devoted myself to going to church, praying and reading my bible and am trusting in the lord to meet my needs and to bless me with the right somebody someday.
But everytime I am interested in someone the door slams shut. Even with female friends it seems that I just cannot get one.. the one friend who i do have has probs with her phone now and we rarely talk anymore. I feel so isolated, my family live 2000 miles away and ive recently considered moving back where they are except for my kids and this divorce, i don't think i'll be allowed to move out of state and i dont know yet who will get custody of the kids.. i'll find out more this court date.
I have so much more to say but i'll go ahead and post this.. Right now i feel the desire to watch my weight and work out. I've gained some weight with these pregnancies. I'm going to join a gym that is near me with childcare.. i'm watchign my portions and just bought some healthier choices.
I have been gong to church but only on sundays and some wednesdays but i go to a big church and dont know anybody and i want to get connected so that is an area i'm praying for god's help in.. ive been thinking aobut trying other churches so i can get connected.
And i called my grandma up today crying because i feel lonely and like i need somebody and she made me promise to see a counselor so i'm going to be calling a counselor up this week.
Dating? I want to date.. but i don't want to date just anybody. I want to be loved and accepted as who i am and want to date someone with whom i can be good friends. I'll be honest, i do want a boyfriend. But like i said everytime i get interested in someone they end up not reciprocating And everyone tells me that i need to just focus on me and i know this is true too because im going through a lot, it's just hard you know.
Can anyone relate? Anyone have any tips or advice for me in my situation? Don't know what i'm really asking.
Thnx
HB
I didn't want to come here and bog you all down with my troubles but i've been feeling the need to get on here and share this stuff though it's personal. So here it goes...
I am about to be divorced from an 11 year marriage, I have four chlldren from that marriage. I left my husband though he didn't want me to last march and last october he filed for a divorce and i have a court date the end of this month and i'll say it'll be a relief to finally be done with it. But this whole situation has been hard.
During this past year of my seperation i had met and dated a guy from a dating site.. we didn't hook up because we were christians, but turned out we both were but well we both have issues and it just hasn't worked out. So since my seperation i've been up and down with this guy who i still love and probably have a soul tie with. I got pregnant on accident last may and well the baby died in utero i found out at my 19 week ultrasound and delivered her oct. 10th. But a month before that my boyfriend and I had broken up and he at times denied the baby was his and wasn't wiling to have anything to do with it, and then he'd say he'd be there and he was so back and forth not to mention that although some days he'd tell me he loved me, other days i wouldn't hear from him because he was chasing after another girl.
So even after i lost the baby he moved back in with me this last month and things were a little stressful but in our relationship going great until one night we got in a fight, were drinking and he choked and hit me and so i called the police and now he lives in another state and is not allowed to even talk to me, though we still talk from time to time.. we still love eachtoher even there our relationship has been so up and down..
And so now i'm alone again... since i met that guy my heart and energy had been spent praying for him, loving him and trying to be wtih him and make it work.
Now I am alone. And this is where i knew i really needed to be since the day i left my husband. But it is hard. These past few months i have really devoted myself to going to church, praying and reading my bible and am trusting in the lord to meet my needs and to bless me with the right somebody someday.
But everytime I am interested in someone the door slams shut. Even with female friends it seems that I just cannot get one.. the one friend who i do have has probs with her phone now and we rarely talk anymore. I feel so isolated, my family live 2000 miles away and ive recently considered moving back where they are except for my kids and this divorce, i don't think i'll be allowed to move out of state and i dont know yet who will get custody of the kids.. i'll find out more this court date.
I have so much more to say but i'll go ahead and post this.. Right now i feel the desire to watch my weight and work out. I've gained some weight with these pregnancies. I'm going to join a gym that is near me with childcare.. i'm watchign my portions and just bought some healthier choices.
I have been gong to church but only on sundays and some wednesdays but i go to a big church and dont know anybody and i want to get connected so that is an area i'm praying for god's help in.. ive been thinking aobut trying other churches so i can get connected.
And i called my grandma up today crying because i feel lonely and like i need somebody and she made me promise to see a counselor so i'm going to be calling a counselor up this week.
Dating? I want to date.. but i don't want to date just anybody. I want to be loved and accepted as who i am and want to date someone with whom i can be good friends. I'll be honest, i do want a boyfriend. But like i said everytime i get interested in someone they end up not reciprocating And everyone tells me that i need to just focus on me and i know this is true too because im going through a lot, it's just hard you know.
Can anyone relate? Anyone have any tips or advice for me in my situation? Don't know what i'm really asking.
Thnx
HB