Yes we are in agreement.
The stuff on TV many times is someone operating in the gift God has given them...but not the power. And it is evident. When someone operates a gift in His power it is God getting the glory not the person. You can always test the source of power by the fruit it produces.
We can't command, but we are encouraged to ask Him to fill us daily, to always be ready, but we can't do it in pride or else we're cutting off our feet. This is what is most sad when people prophecy on TV or something. Are they doing it for themselves out of obligation to their position (pride), or for the Holy Spirit who wishes to do something Himself, regardless of who he uses?
Your second question about "how to" if you're not 'getting anything': I would answer, check your motives. Then find out what God wants YOU to do, rather than the otherway around. There's a big-word term for this... lemme think... ah yes, paradigm shift. I think it fits. Get God's perspective, not yours. He already KNOWS your perspective. *g
I've often found I've gotten my passion from God's perspective of things. And when that happens, God does things! Incredible things! Thinking about maybe writing a book "Passion through Perspective." Kinda see how Jesus walked, "had compassion" and "did something." It's because He always had the Father's heart, the Father's mind, and the Father's will. We should too. Think of Him using you as an instrument. Not the other way around. Sometimes instruments are just put on the shelf for a moment while God uses another. It's how He works. It's how he works to get the glory.
I just like to think of myself as a glory mirror. I shine it back on him.
I'm just the baseball, he's the one who hit the home run. When it's my turn, I just sail through the sky. He's the one running the bases. *g