Thomas1984
*Expect the Unexpected*
swine flu?
Come on Chris, you can't just strike a match and watch the thread burn...
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swine flu?
XD No, but just from other people with experience
Good sex doesn't just occur. If you're having sex for the first time with a random stranger, your sex is likely to suck.
While I certainly agree with not doing some things before marriage, having absolutely no physical contact (ie. no kissing/holding hands) could certainly lead to some, well, issues on the wedding night...
One thing to keep in mind as well, is that in past generations, there was no long process of dating as there is today. They never had to suppress their sexuality, so no physical contact prior to marriage may have worked in that setting. However in today's world, with most couples dating a year or more before marriage, it's a much tougher proposition...
I discovered the wisdom behind not kissing or holding hands when dating...
This is a different conversation. I don't think that Chris was saying that for purity reasons holding hands/kissing was bad.
This is a different conversation. I don't think that Chris was saying that for purity reasons holding hands/kissing was bad.
He was saying that for himself (And maybe for others here) holding hands and kissing was bad.
And I agree, for some people that is temptation.
Sure it is hard, but sometimes we need to do a lot to stay away from temptation. Which is how Christ directs us. I will say something that some will find even harder... some people should not watch violent movies or play violent video games.
JM
If holding hands alone makes a person want to have sex, or violent movies or video games makes you want to commit acts of violence. Then said person should report immediatly to a mental ward as soon as possible.
Yes but one-night stands almost always occur with sexually experienced individuals. They know what they're doing, and they both don't usually know each other well, and so all bets are off. If they embarass themselves it doesn't matter, because they'll be gone in the morning. Most inexperienced people that engage in one-night stands have a terrible time.
Actually, from experience this isn't always true.... Wait...nevermind...you said for "the first time"...I take that back, you're right lol
I think at some point I predicted (although my intention was more comedic) that soon people would be advocating for no holding hands before marriage.
Now for a serious prediction.
In 10 to 15 years, especially with how well computers work, there will be a small group of evangelicals advocating that you don't even see your husband or wife in person until the altar. Clearly this will make them more pure then those lazy christians who like to see the person they are marrying before they say "I do". And way more pure then those perverts that might actually touch their SO's. And clearly it would keep them from becomming like those sexual deviants that might actually kiss their SO's before marriage.
And then in about 30 to maybe 45 years, there will be another group advocating that you shouldn't be able to even view pictures of them covered from head to toe like a muslim woman. Either that or they will advocate that you shouldn't be able to hear their voice.
By the end of my life there will be groups of Christian evangelicals out there advocate that everyone marry by resume with no contact or communication with the person until they reach the altar and say "I do". And they will consider those men & women who might actually hold hands before marriage to be little better then prostitutes.
This is how this one upsmanship in "purity" is going. And its frighteningly ridiculous.
If holding hands alone makes a person want to have sex, or violent movies or video games makes you want to commit acts of violence. Then said person should report immediatly to a mental ward as soon as possible.
If holding hands alone makes a person want to have sex, or violent movies or video games makes you want to commit acts of violence. Then said person should report immediatly to a mental ward as soon as possible.
Yeah, I am fine with not doing some stuff until engagement, and not other stuff until the wedding night (like sex). And it is true that wedding night doesn't have to have sex (although I think it would be very romantic, and the romantic part of me really wants to lose my virginity my wedding night).
But it is important to me that my wife isn't one of those people you occasionally see Christians become who feels that sex is dirty or wrong or what have you. Or that has other psychological problems with it.
Those would need to be dealt with, preferably before the marriage. And if she didn't want to kiss until the wedding, I would need to be sure she didn't have those issues.
Sex is a beautiful thing, given to us by God. We need to not abuse it, but also not to demonize it.
JM