Lord have mercy upon Chrystal and all of her family.
The rise of the "New Atheist" movement, as it was (is?) called, in the early 2000s really turned a lot of western people quite sour on the subject of religion altogether, and especially Christianity. Here I'm thinking of the quite famous and well-regarded works on the subject by the likes of Richard Dawkins, Christopher Hitchens, and Sam Harris (the new atheists' "holy trinity" perhaps...at least in the sense of the three to whom they obviously are especially devoted; I have even heard arguments recently from some of their fellow atheists like Peter Boghossian who used to be a part of that crowd that "new atheism" is itself essentially a religion in all but name, which is an observation I have yet to see sufficient reason to oppose).
My own grandmother also told me that it was "stupid" to get baptized (yes, that is exactly the word she used; how nice), and religion is for weak people, and why would I want a bunch of people telling me what to do, etc. This was several years ago, but she is 93 years old, so I can relate to the distress you feel in hearing these things. My prayers are with you, as truly unworthy as I am to offer them.
But then she also reminded me that it was only ever my other who had turned to religion, as she did as a teen in the 1960s (quite
counter-cultural, if you consider what was popular at the time), since neither of my grandparents on that side of the family were ever explicitly religious (and none of their other children are). I do not mind taking after my mother in this regard. It made me feel oddly proud, in a weird way -- not like I'm better than them or anyone, but like I am continuing a tradition that might otherwise be lost in that side of the family (my father's side are mostly disaffected/non-practicing Catholics; Lord have mercy...our local diocese was hit hard by the abuse scandals, so in that case it's hard to not sympathize). And of course to say that belief in Christ is "worth continuing" is about the biggest understatement anyone can possibly make!
So maybe looking at it that way might help? You can and should still pray for them, of course, but when they say all kinds of evil against you on account of Christ, you can remind yourself that even if you are the only one in your immediate family who believes (and that is understandably distressing), then at least you are
the one who believes! What could possibly be better? Sounds like both our families' atheist/agnostic/aggressive jerky old people quota is filled, so it's good to have other types of people in your family, even if you yourself have to fill that role!
(I joke to lighten the mood, of course, and I truly mean no offense and apologize in advance if I have caused any. I am sure your mother and other family members are all wonderful people outside of these kinds of interactions, as my grandmother is also a wonderful person. I have just learned not to bring up certain topics around her unless I am prepared for the blast of extreme bitterness that will follow. Lord have mercy.)
