- Oct 10, 2018
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- United States
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- Charismatic
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- Married
Hi all, I am wondering what is the appropriate age to allow a child the option of going to church or not. I have an 8 year old whom says that he no longer wants to go to church because it's boring and he 'hates' it. He argues that his dad (my husband) doesn't have to go so is unfair that he has to go.
I at first told my son that his dad is an adult and that he is a child so he has to do what his mom tells him to since Church and fellowship is important. He then went around and asked his dad if it is important to go to church and dad told him absolutely not. I confronted my husband about this and my husband told me that it would be rather hypocritical if him to tell our son that church is important when he doesn't believe it is. I told him that it is important to me and that he could avoid being a hypocrite by just attending and setting a good example. I asked him to do this for me knowing that I believe it to be important that our son has fellowship with other Christians, he responded by pulling out an old note I wrote to him almost 10 years ago where I promised him that I would never nag and badger him to attend church again for any reason and that if he ever wanted to attend again it would be 200% his choice when he is ready.
So last Sunday was the first time in along time that I was alone in church while my son and my husband went crabbing. As it stands right now dad will not join me in a united front to make church a family rule like school, home work and chores. Dad wants to leave it up to the child, I think he is too young, what would be right?
I at first told my son that his dad is an adult and that he is a child so he has to do what his mom tells him to since Church and fellowship is important. He then went around and asked his dad if it is important to go to church and dad told him absolutely not. I confronted my husband about this and my husband told me that it would be rather hypocritical if him to tell our son that church is important when he doesn't believe it is. I told him that it is important to me and that he could avoid being a hypocrite by just attending and setting a good example. I asked him to do this for me knowing that I believe it to be important that our son has fellowship with other Christians, he responded by pulling out an old note I wrote to him almost 10 years ago where I promised him that I would never nag and badger him to attend church again for any reason and that if he ever wanted to attend again it would be 200% his choice when he is ready.
So last Sunday was the first time in along time that I was alone in church while my son and my husband went crabbing. As it stands right now dad will not join me in a united front to make church a family rule like school, home work and chores. Dad wants to leave it up to the child, I think he is too young, what would be right?