Has anyone ever experienced a friendship or a relationship that is overwhelmingly suffocating or almost controlling? I'm not talking about someone that just tags a long or wants to be with you; but everything thing you do and like- they overwhelmingly do and like, even if they don't, just to manipulate wanting to be around you or involved in your life? To the point that if you try to end the friendship or distance yourself the person clings or tries to majorly guilt you into still being their friend.
Me: I'm going to ride roller coasters; see you later!
Friend: Oh my gosh! I love to ride roller coasters too! (They really don't). I do it all the time (They really don't). We are so much alike. I'll come with you!
Me: That's ok; I kinda wanted to go by myself today. We can schedule a later time when we can go together.
Friend: No! It would make more sense for us to go together today; I'm free- You're free- let's go! You make me so happy!
and then it goes around in a circle with friend type person never getting the hint even if I flat out say , I don't want you to come or I don't want to be around today.
or I go to the grocery store (or where ever) and surprise! friend is there in hopes of running into me and hanging out- all day long.
I don't dislike this person; but they exhaust me with the constant trying so hard to be my friend and not being themselves.
I guess talking with them is the best thing, setting boundaries? I've tried it before and it goes right back into the guilting and manipulation thing with them....Maybe my boyfriend should talk with them??? Just to be clear it's another girl; not a guy. Anyone deal with something like this?
Me: I'm going to ride roller coasters; see you later!
Friend: Oh my gosh! I love to ride roller coasters too! (They really don't). I do it all the time (They really don't). We are so much alike. I'll come with you!
Me: That's ok; I kinda wanted to go by myself today. We can schedule a later time when we can go together.
Friend: No! It would make more sense for us to go together today; I'm free- You're free- let's go! You make me so happy!
and then it goes around in a circle with friend type person never getting the hint even if I flat out say , I don't want you to come or I don't want to be around today.
or I go to the grocery store (or where ever) and surprise! friend is there in hopes of running into me and hanging out- all day long.
I don't dislike this person; but they exhaust me with the constant trying so hard to be my friend and not being themselves.
I guess talking with them is the best thing, setting boundaries? I've tried it before and it goes right back into the guilting and manipulation thing with them....Maybe my boyfriend should talk with them??? Just to be clear it's another girl; not a guy. Anyone deal with something like this?
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