Hi all! My first post here, and it's an issue that I've been wrestling with for a while.
I was a Baptist for much of my life, until a life event caused me to believe that I could not possibly be Christian, and I have drifted away ever since. Ever since elementary school, I have known that I am transgender. I understood this on a very base level long before I had any idea transgender people existed, long before I had a word, a concept by which to understand what I was experiencing. Although I understand that those feelings happen often to children without leading to transgenderism (and often as a coping factor), I am 27 now. I have, objectively, been very successful at everything I do. And yet, as the years went by, the pain only grew until I was suffering severely crippling depression in college.
It was in college that I first learned of transgenderism. I then received counseling and talked to psychiatrists for the better part of 5 years before proceeding to begin hormone therapy. For me, hormone therapy was a last resort - something that I absolutely did not want to go on unless I reached a place where it was so painful to live that I truly wanted and was ready to commit suicide, and only if no other treatment was successful. I reached that point at the end of those 5 years. Now that I have been on hormones for nearly a year, I finally feel like I am at peace with myself.
Although perhaps irrelevant, I would mention that I do not intend to socially transition unless it becomes unavoidable, as I do not see myself as a woman. Rather, I view my affliction as a mistake, and that hormone therapy was the only means by which to rectify that mistake.
I believe, from my own study as well as from talking with people, that while being transgender is not a sin in the Bible, going through hormone therapy, getting gender reassignment surgery, socially transitioning - these I believe are sins as treated in the Bible. My contradiction begins from this root. I do not believe I, or anyone, can choose to go on the medically supervised and directed treatment that I am on and truly be a Christian.
If I am to accept Jesus as my Savior, I must necessarily believe that the Bible is the Word of God, for else I should have no reason to believe in Jesus, given that the Bible is the only tangible way to know God, the only physical thing I can point to and say "No matter what happens to my mind, even if I lose myself through self delusions via human weakness, this Word is true and reliable - through this, I can grow closer to God". If I believe the Bible is the Word of God, I should strive to follow its teachings as much as possible. Though I will certainly fail endlessly throughout my life, I must strive towards them. And yet, I have chosen to disregard some of its teachings. I have begun to cherry pick. What if I had different life circumstances? In my circumstances, I have determined that I cannot follow the teachings relating to transgenderism. If I am willing to reject this part of the Word of God, if I am willing to absolutely not strive towards particular teachings, I am saying that God is wrong, am I not? How then could I possibly be a true believer?
But it doesn't end there. I was straight before beginning hormone therapy. As a side effect of hormone therapy, I am now attracted almost exclusively to men. The Bible makes God's view on homosexuality even more clear than for transgenderism. So, even if by some stretch of scripture interpretation, going through a full course of transgender therapy were not anathema to God, I would be condemned to either disregard yet another one of God's teachings, this one being crystal clear, or accept that I am condemned by birth, by nature, to live life alone in that sense. Such a condemnation feels so anti-Christian to me, and yet I do not see how it could be escaped.
What is the Christian thing to do? How can I reconcile my circumstances with the faith I once had?
I'm not a pervert. I don't want to use the women's restroom, because I know I am a mistake, not a woman. I don't have any ulterior motives for having started hormone therapy except that it was medically the last resort for me to treat the severely painful dysphoria I had been experiencing for well over a decade. And yet, I cannot help but come to the conclusion (using my previous faith), that the path to my happiness is paved in sin - and I can never repent for this, for I am not sorry for, nor do I regret, what I have done.
Maybe this is an extreme analogy, but suppose I were a serial killer who decided to "find Jesus", all the meanwhile consciously choosing to never stop killing. Can I possibly have truly found Jesus? Would it not have been a delusion, a faith "found" out of convenience, perhaps out of a desire for communion? How can I possibly say "No God, I'm going to keep committing this sin, not because I am human, but because I want to - and your Word be damned" and have ever truly been Christian?
I was at a point where I was ready to die rather than keep living in pain. I lost my faith and saved my life. But was I wrong? Is there a way to reconcile the contradiction (in my eyes) between undergoing transgender therapy and being a Christian? Thanks!
I was a Baptist for much of my life, until a life event caused me to believe that I could not possibly be Christian, and I have drifted away ever since. Ever since elementary school, I have known that I am transgender. I understood this on a very base level long before I had any idea transgender people existed, long before I had a word, a concept by which to understand what I was experiencing. Although I understand that those feelings happen often to children without leading to transgenderism (and often as a coping factor), I am 27 now. I have, objectively, been very successful at everything I do. And yet, as the years went by, the pain only grew until I was suffering severely crippling depression in college.
It was in college that I first learned of transgenderism. I then received counseling and talked to psychiatrists for the better part of 5 years before proceeding to begin hormone therapy. For me, hormone therapy was a last resort - something that I absolutely did not want to go on unless I reached a place where it was so painful to live that I truly wanted and was ready to commit suicide, and only if no other treatment was successful. I reached that point at the end of those 5 years. Now that I have been on hormones for nearly a year, I finally feel like I am at peace with myself.
Although perhaps irrelevant, I would mention that I do not intend to socially transition unless it becomes unavoidable, as I do not see myself as a woman. Rather, I view my affliction as a mistake, and that hormone therapy was the only means by which to rectify that mistake.
I believe, from my own study as well as from talking with people, that while being transgender is not a sin in the Bible, going through hormone therapy, getting gender reassignment surgery, socially transitioning - these I believe are sins as treated in the Bible. My contradiction begins from this root. I do not believe I, or anyone, can choose to go on the medically supervised and directed treatment that I am on and truly be a Christian.
If I am to accept Jesus as my Savior, I must necessarily believe that the Bible is the Word of God, for else I should have no reason to believe in Jesus, given that the Bible is the only tangible way to know God, the only physical thing I can point to and say "No matter what happens to my mind, even if I lose myself through self delusions via human weakness, this Word is true and reliable - through this, I can grow closer to God". If I believe the Bible is the Word of God, I should strive to follow its teachings as much as possible. Though I will certainly fail endlessly throughout my life, I must strive towards them. And yet, I have chosen to disregard some of its teachings. I have begun to cherry pick. What if I had different life circumstances? In my circumstances, I have determined that I cannot follow the teachings relating to transgenderism. If I am willing to reject this part of the Word of God, if I am willing to absolutely not strive towards particular teachings, I am saying that God is wrong, am I not? How then could I possibly be a true believer?
But it doesn't end there. I was straight before beginning hormone therapy. As a side effect of hormone therapy, I am now attracted almost exclusively to men. The Bible makes God's view on homosexuality even more clear than for transgenderism. So, even if by some stretch of scripture interpretation, going through a full course of transgender therapy were not anathema to God, I would be condemned to either disregard yet another one of God's teachings, this one being crystal clear, or accept that I am condemned by birth, by nature, to live life alone in that sense. Such a condemnation feels so anti-Christian to me, and yet I do not see how it could be escaped.
What is the Christian thing to do? How can I reconcile my circumstances with the faith I once had?
I'm not a pervert. I don't want to use the women's restroom, because I know I am a mistake, not a woman. I don't have any ulterior motives for having started hormone therapy except that it was medically the last resort for me to treat the severely painful dysphoria I had been experiencing for well over a decade. And yet, I cannot help but come to the conclusion (using my previous faith), that the path to my happiness is paved in sin - and I can never repent for this, for I am not sorry for, nor do I regret, what I have done.
Maybe this is an extreme analogy, but suppose I were a serial killer who decided to "find Jesus", all the meanwhile consciously choosing to never stop killing. Can I possibly have truly found Jesus? Would it not have been a delusion, a faith "found" out of convenience, perhaps out of a desire for communion? How can I possibly say "No God, I'm going to keep committing this sin, not because I am human, but because I want to - and your Word be damned" and have ever truly been Christian?
I was at a point where I was ready to die rather than keep living in pain. I lost my faith and saved my life. But was I wrong? Is there a way to reconcile the contradiction (in my eyes) between undergoing transgender therapy and being a Christian? Thanks!