I asked about other faith traditions. I part of the PNCC
I feed on 1 Timothy 3:1-10. To me, this includes how the pastor has his wife and she is his helpmate . . . who has helped him to become qualified to pastor. Together they have gotten God's correction so he has become
"blameless" the way God's love makes a person blameless. Plus, she has helped him learn how to rule his own house well so he can know how to take care of God's people in our Father's family caring and sharing way. For this, their seminary has been their own marriage and home. She has been essential, then, to his becoming qualified.
This is what I get through the Bible.
In church experience > my take is there are women who go to Bible school, connect with a future pastor, then share with one another in studying. Then they are on the same page, later. This can happen in Baptist, Pentecostal, and evangelical, and other groups.
But in different sorts of Catholic training, I see how the man might be either celibate or having a wife who does not study in his school. But, yes, at home they may discuss what has been good in his classes, so they both benefit; he can get experience in ministering with her . . . and get feedback
I have been told how in certain groups ones tend to make it all about the man being the pastor. The wife can be left out, and there are wives who feel they can not contribute to pastoring. And the women have health and emotional problems because they are left out and feel inadequate.
But there are groups who have couples pastoring. They are one with each other, essential to each other, and their example feeds God's people better than any amount of Bible knowledge and training can bring >
"nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)
The 1 Timothy 3:1-10 couple is an example of marriage, how to become in God's love, how to bring up children. They have discovered in their homes demonstration of how God has a marriage thrive and how God has them learn how to bring up their children. And so they have God's demonstration of all He means by His word. And it takes years for them to mature in this so they can pastor others with their example and experience of how God does His word in sharing with us.