Anger -shall we talk?

[Korean-American Christian]

Your insights give me insights about how to get better and so you help others by sharing what works for you!
What you are engaged in doing by meeting with your pastor seems to be so healing for you. I praise G_d for your pastor and for your overcoming your anger and other concerns.
I've been watching you grow and its so awesome to know about!

Completely through the grace of God, I find that I have grown spiritually since February of this year when I became a CF member.

Back in February and March of this year....when I posted on CF, I would rant and complain about my dad.

Now, slowly but surely, the nature of my posts and replies is changing....

 

[teresa]

Completely through the grace of God, I find that I have grown spiritually since February of this year when I became a CF member.

Back in February and March of this year....when I posted on CF, I would rant and complain about my dad.

Now, slowly but surely, the nature of my posts and replies is changing....

Yes, it shows! You have been transformed by the renewing of your mind.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

Who here has ever dealt with anger issues?

Still struggling with them?

Finding insights and solutions too?

Good days/bad days?

How are you dealing with your anger?

I'm not one to give advice. I can hold a grudge forever.

 

[teresa]

I'm not one to give advice. I can hold a grudge forever.

In a good way? An example would be to hold a grudge against an abusive person, so that you keep your boundaries and don't get too close to them. So, its not hate or non-forgiveness, its just putting up an invisible force field of grudge so that you don't get too close to them.

 

[teresa]

'cause I'd really be sad if you were making like santa clause and keeping a list and checking it twice!

(that would be a list of peeps who done you wrong)

 

[Tempura]

I used to have. I let in consume me. Became bitter. Became the judge of mankind. In a sense, I wanted to be God.

I still have that annoying "spark", the tendency for it. But I guess I won't let it eat me anymore. At least not the way it was before. If something tragic comes along, it'll surface again. But it won't eat me alive anymore.

 

[teresa]

I used to have. I let in consume me. Became bitter. Became the judge of mankind. In a sense, I wanted to be God.

I still have that annoying "spark", the tendency for it. But I guess I won't let it eat me anymore. At least not the way it was before. If something tragic comes along, it'll surface again. But it won't eat me alive anymore.

That is so wonderful Tempura! Its so good to hear about how you've overcome being bitter and angry. It sure is exhausting letting it eat you up inside.

Got any tips on how to do this?

 

[Tempura]

That is so wonderful Tempura! Its so good to hear about how you've overcome being bitter and angry. I sure is exhausting letting it eat you up inside.

Got any tips on how to do this?

Not sure. Once I was consumed by my anger enough, I just started to realize that I don't want it. Perhaps I got older too.

Denying it with my reason, not wanting anything to do with it. It only hurt me, never those who I wanted to get hurt instead. And it always wants more, it demands something. It wants us to do something [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]ty, to focus on something bad. To want pain for others. It demands vengeance. Vengeance has never given anyone peace. It demands violence and sacrifice but it never gives anything good back. It's a circle of lies and blindness.

I might still feel strong anger, but I won't let it control me. If I feel like it controls me, then I pray and think of Christ and what He wanted us to to instead. To pray for those we hate, even if we don't feel like it. It's a good way to practice. To give that burden to God, and focus on something good in the midst of everything bad. I don't want to carry the burden of constant hate, because it only gets heavier the more I hold on to it.

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

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[teresa]

I have Major Depressive Disorder, and my therapist told me my severe anger is directed at myself, or in other words, my major depression is anger turned inwards.

She told me that instead of being angry at my abusers, I'm angry at myself and turn that anger on myself in various ways.

Wow, I had not heard of depression being all about anger turned inwards before.