Always feel inadequate to chase girls

[OscarMana]

im 21, often feel like a failure in life despite knowing that God has a great plan for me out there. One thing I've been trying to find out is when I'll be actually ready to date a girl. I've never had an official relationship before and I shy away from girls in church and Christian girls for fear of rejection. I am considered quite a religious person by my peers but I wouldn't consider myself super godly, I'm still growing and starting to serve in the church ministries.
For some reason at this age I still feel awkward and nervous around girls, and even if there's a particular girl I fancy I'll be thinking she's way out of my league. Am kinda facing that now.

 

[John Hyperspace]

fear of rejection.

Someone once said that there is only one reason for fear to exist: to be conquered. Personally, I always start my day with a big bowl of fear. Breakfast of champions.

 

[Archie the Preacher]

For some reason at this age I still feel awkward and nervous around girls, and even if there's a particular girl I fancy I'll be thinking she's way out of my league. Am kinda facing that now.

Pard, look about you. You will see attractive women and girls with all manner of ugly, stupid, rude and shiftless guys. Presumably, you are not - at least - possessed of ALL those qualities.

It's an old concept, but nonetheless valid. The better you are in Christ, the better off you will be in all. I would suggest working first on getting comfortable with Jesus and letting the rest of it go for now. If you want to do something else about it, learn something - anything - well. Then you can always consider yourself competent at 'something'.

By the way: Like dogs smell fear, women smell inferiority complex. Trust me on this.