Alone

[Sonny Jim]

So I'm a 17 year old teenager at a Christian high school. In the past I've struggled with things such as depression etc, whatever (no physical stuff or anything tho)
But now I feel very alone
I cannot find any meaning or anything in my relationships and friendships
All the people that cared about me moved away or moved on
And it's not that I can't move on, it's that I have nothing to move on to....
Any suggestions would be nice
Thanks

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

Well it depends on how you turn out from this. Me? I felt the same at first. But eventually I just accepted and got used to not having anyone/anything. Doesn't mean I don't want friends of course, but I've just adapted to not really having any. Now I'm fine with it.

While that may sound good, it does mean you grow a bit...well.... uncaring about making a friendship continue further. For example the old me would do anything out of desperation to keep a friend. Even if it meant being a door mat and abused. The new me won't do that. And even if the friend is a great person, if they stop calling for awhile I won't really call them back. If our friendship ends its of no loss to me.

So you can see its sort of a double edged sword situation.

Overall I'd say stay strong, keep faith and hope in God. Pray friends come along or maybe even someone that could be a future love interest. If you really need some companionship then maybe try a pet? Growing up my parents got me cats and I really loved them. Again, not that I am being negative about humans as friends but pets are pretty loyal and loving. You don't have to worry about anything like "Why aren't they calling me?" or "Do they really like me at all?". Of course down side is pets don't live long and the grief of losing a pet is tremendous!

 

[Sonny Jim]

Thanks, kinda hard to get a parent cos parents and stuff...
But yeah, I'll see what happens I guess

 

[Newsgurl]

It all depends how u write your future. I thought when I was your age I had nothing to live for but I kept living b/c I wanted to see what lies ahead of me good or bad. We all have bad days but try to get through them. Good things will come your way. It took me 15 years to finally be happy and I'm here if you need to talk to anybody I've been through depression and worse. I'll try to help you out if I can. Just keep your head up and always say to tomorrow will be better if you had a bad day

 

[Sonny Jim]

Thanks...but what if tomorrow isn't a better day?
Cos it never seems to be....
And on top of that....
I've wondered if this happening in my life NOW is God getting me ready for worse things in the future
And sure, I'm up for it, doing what God wants me to do to help anyone, etc
But I don't know how I can live like this

 

[Sonny Jim]

It all depends how u write your future. I thought when I was your age I had nothing to live for but I kept living b/c I wanted to see what lies ahead of me good or bad. We all have bad days but try to get through them. Good things will come your way. It took me 15 years to finally be happy and I'm here if you need to talk to anybody I've been through depression and worse. I'll try to help you out if I can. Just keep your head up and always say to tomorrow will be better if you had a bad day

Yeah, I still constantly feel lost and alone....idk what to do with myself.....

 

[christianforumsuser]

You need God's Word. Do you have someone to teach you its meaning and faith?
Why are you talking only about the physical things? Do you have a problem with sin in your heart? Do you know about carnal flesh and about spirit?

 

[Sonny Jim]

I mean, I read the Bible daily and I have people who teach it
What do you mean, physical things? I meant at the start I don't physically hurt myself. And my problem isn't sin in my heart, but loneliness and no one that cares for me really as such
Carnal flesh? No. Holy Spirit? Yes

 

[gloriousday2006]

So I'm a 17 year old teenager at a Christian high school. In the past I've struggled with things such as depression etc, whatever (no physical stuff or anything tho)
But now I feel very alone
I cannot find any meaning or anything in my relationships and friendships
All the people that cared about me moved away or moved on
And it's not that I can't move on, it's that I have nothing to move on to....
Any suggestions would be nice
Thanks

Keep looking towards the future, God can use you in powerful ways. I went through a time of great depression and severe loneliness when I was about your age. You can come out of it, and all the experiences we go through can be used to help others. Cast your cares on the Lord, and He will sustain you.

John 16:33
You have bright future ahead my friend. In this world you will have trouble, take heart I have overcome the world. God bless you!!

 

[blossom15]

One thing which may help keep you going is to be thankful for and count your blessings - water to drink, a roof over your head, etc etc If you can think of say, five things throughout the day and perhaps talk about them with the Lord. This is something I'm realising I could do too!

 

[Willing-heart]

I mean, I read the Bible daily and I have people who teach it
What do you mean, physical things? I meant at the start I don't physically hurt myself. And my problem isn't sin in my heart, but loneliness and no one that cares for me really as such
Carnal flesh? No. Holy Spirit? Yes

Nevertheless, the people God raises up as leaders must be willing to endure the suffering of solitude. On the contrary, solitude helps us appreciate people more. While we may come to Christ as individuals, we do not remain solitary salvation pilgrims or individual lone ranger Christians. Being a Christian is not an individual journey; it is a group effort lived in community.

In solitude, our heart of stone can be turned into a heart of flesh, rebellious heart into a contrite heart, and a closed heart into a heart that opens itself to all suffering people in a gesture of solidarity. This type of solitude is not a state of loneliness but of aloneness with God alone.

Broken

 

[Sonny Jim]

Keep looking towards the future, God can use you in powerful ways. I went through a time of great depression and severe loneliness when I was about your age. You can come out of it, and all the experiences we go through can be used to help others. Cast your cares on the Lord, and He will sustain you.

I mean, I am trying to come out of it, but everytime I do start to come out, or get closer to it, I get kicked back down again, and I don't understand why

One thing which may help keep you going is to be thankful for and count your blessings - water to drink, a roof over your head, etc etc If you can think of say, five things throughout the day and perhaps talk about them with the Lord. This is something I'm realising I could do too!

I am thankful for the physical things I have, definitely, it's just that emotionally I feel as if I have little to no support, but thank you kind sir

Nevertheless, the people God raises up as leaders must be willing to endure the suffering of solitude. On the contrary, solitude helps us appreciate people more. While we may come to Christ as individuals, we do not remain solitary salvation pilgrims or individual lone ranger Christians. Being a Christian is not an individual journey; it is a group effort lived in community.

In solitude, our heart of stone can be turned into a heart of flesh, rebellious heart into a contrite heart, and a closed heart into a heart that opens itself to all suffering people in a gesture of solidarity. This type of solitude is not a state of loneliness but of aloneness with God alone.

I mean, yes, the Bible does talk about being alone with God but it also talks about having people as brothers and sisters, friends who believe in you and care for you

 

[anna ~ grace]

Sonny, I can definitely feel for you. I'm 33, but can empathize with much of what you've written. Even now. One thing that stands out for me is how *difficult* young adulthood is for many. Quite a few young people struggle with depression.

I've also come to see heavy bouts of depression / self-pity / loneliness / unhappiness with my life as being a form of Satanic attack. Some might argue that I'm over-spiritualizung things, but I don't think so.

Prayer to the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit and also to Mary have been massive helps to me. Forcing myself to pray *for* others when consumed by depression has helped the depression lift, so that I focus more on others, and less on my own feelings. Though a Catholic practice, and while you may not be Catholuc, praying the Rosary has helped and is helping me immensely. It is a blessing and life raft beyond words.

I hope this helps you. I'll be praying for you, too, friend.

 

[anna ~ grace]

Also, seeing sadness / depression / loneliness as opportunities for joy in Christ can be a huge help. There's a vast and beautiful theology of suffering out there that has helped me and us helping me through a lot of stuff.

 

[Ancient of Days]

Helps to emotional stability

 

[vinsight4u]

/nvm

 

[nutsofacto]

My dear young brother in Christ....take this advice from an 80 y/o the really know what he's talking about (from both a personal and professional standpoint). FIND A BIBLE-BELIEVING CHURCH THAT IS VERY WELCOMING AND JOIN IN WITH THE OTHER YOUTH....REALLY! And read and believe what God says about loving you (and He really LIKES you too, no matter what you do or will do if you believe that Jesus is God's son and accept Him as your LORD and SAVIOR!! You will never, ever, regret it and you'll remember that you heard this from an ancient but wise man! May God RICHLY bless you!!!!
nutsofacto (doclaire@hotmail.com).

 

[redblue22]

So I'm a 17 year old teenager at a Christian high school. In the past I've struggled with things such as depression etc, whatever (no physical stuff or anything tho)
But now I feel very alone
I cannot find any meaning or anything in my relationships and friendships
All the people that cared about me moved away or moved on
And it's not that I can't move on, it's that I have nothing to move on to....
Any suggestions would be nice
Thanks

I'm sorry to hear you feel so alone. I think it is very normal to feel alone and sad during times of change; especially relationships moving far away. I go through feeling alone myself. I think Jesus felt very alone that night in the end praying while the others fell asleep. I don't have the answers, but I wanted to write and tell you that I care. (hug)

 

[nutsofacto]

So I'm a 17 year old teenager at a Christian high school. In the past I've struggled with things such as depression etc, whatever (no physical stuff or anything tho)
But now I feel very alone
I cannot find any meaning or anything in my relationships and friendships
All the people that cared about me moved away or moved on
And it's not that I can't move on, it's that I have nothing to move on to....
Any suggestions would be nice
Thanks

 

[nutsofacto]

Please scroll down and re-read my first post to to you...if you are still having a bad time I'll bet you that you didn't follow the guidance that I would have given even my own son! I sincerely hope and will pray that you reconsider this course toward life-saving joy and peace!!!!! nutsofacto (doclaire@hotmail.com)