Hi everyone,
I am 26 year old Scandinavian guy. Recently I have met the woman of my dreams - she is everything I've ever dreamed of (and ever could have dreamed of). We are madly in love and the last few months we have discovered how much we have in common: everything (!)... well, everything except faith.
She is South-American, a Baptist, a devout believer and her faith plays a very big role in her life. I, on the other hand, am like most Scandinavians: Christian by culture, but not much else. I consider myself agnostic, but I rarely contemplate God, if he's real or not. Faith is just not a big part of my life.
Since I want this relationship to last more than anything, I don't want our different views to be a problem. However, tonight I have read quite a few Christian forums and have become a little dishearted. I see many Christians feel that if a Christian dates a non-Christian, it will only weaken their relationship with God.
I have recently started reading the Bible again and reading anything I can find about the Baptists - I simply want to know everything about her and her beliefs. In fact, her belief is one of the things I love about her. She is a very positive and a happy person and it has become clear through our conversations that her religion has a big part to play in that happiness.
I am a good man and I want to be a good husband and father. I respect my girlfriend, her faith, her values and I wouldn't change anything about her, even if I could. I will support her in whatever direction she wants to go, spiritually, career-wise or otherwise.
When I was 18 I started going out with a Catholic girl. That relationship lasted 3 years and I never felt religion was a problem. Now I'm older and very serious about this new relationship. Her parents won't allow her to move in with a guy unless she marries him. Considering that she is 25, financially independent and extremely intelligent, this would be considered most unusual where I come from, but I completely respect her parents wish and her culture. I just want this to work!
I am in a place where I want to develop my spiritual side more. I would love to go to church with her, discuss religion, be part of her community... but I don't really see myself becoming Christian. She knows my views and it's the only thing she seems a little concerned about.
I guess what I want to know are things like these:
- how big a problem can our different views pose?
- what can I do turn this into something positive?
- does it seem like a good idea to involve myself in her community and study Christianity or should I leave her alone in this area of her life?
- what kind of problems could arrise should we have children together?
- is there anything I should know about the Baptists in particular?
- are there any sites for "religiously mixed" couples?
Pretty big questions, I know, so all comments are sincerely welcome.
I am 26 year old Scandinavian guy. Recently I have met the woman of my dreams - she is everything I've ever dreamed of (and ever could have dreamed of). We are madly in love and the last few months we have discovered how much we have in common: everything (!)... well, everything except faith.
She is South-American, a Baptist, a devout believer and her faith plays a very big role in her life. I, on the other hand, am like most Scandinavians: Christian by culture, but not much else. I consider myself agnostic, but I rarely contemplate God, if he's real or not. Faith is just not a big part of my life.
Since I want this relationship to last more than anything, I don't want our different views to be a problem. However, tonight I have read quite a few Christian forums and have become a little dishearted. I see many Christians feel that if a Christian dates a non-Christian, it will only weaken their relationship with God.
I have recently started reading the Bible again and reading anything I can find about the Baptists - I simply want to know everything about her and her beliefs. In fact, her belief is one of the things I love about her. She is a very positive and a happy person and it has become clear through our conversations that her religion has a big part to play in that happiness.
I am a good man and I want to be a good husband and father. I respect my girlfriend, her faith, her values and I wouldn't change anything about her, even if I could. I will support her in whatever direction she wants to go, spiritually, career-wise or otherwise.
When I was 18 I started going out with a Catholic girl. That relationship lasted 3 years and I never felt religion was a problem. Now I'm older and very serious about this new relationship. Her parents won't allow her to move in with a guy unless she marries him. Considering that she is 25, financially independent and extremely intelligent, this would be considered most unusual where I come from, but I completely respect her parents wish and her culture. I just want this to work!
I am in a place where I want to develop my spiritual side more. I would love to go to church with her, discuss religion, be part of her community... but I don't really see myself becoming Christian. She knows my views and it's the only thing she seems a little concerned about.
I guess what I want to know are things like these:
- how big a problem can our different views pose?
- what can I do turn this into something positive?
- does it seem like a good idea to involve myself in her community and study Christianity or should I leave her alone in this area of her life?
- what kind of problems could arrise should we have children together?
- is there anything I should know about the Baptists in particular?
- are there any sites for "religiously mixed" couples?
Pretty big questions, I know, so all comments are sincerely welcome.