I am an agnostic man of 21 years of age, and a very important and special girl in my life is Christian. I have loved her for about 2 years now. Recently I talked to her about it, and she informed me that she liked me too. But she also said that we couldn't be together because of my lack of faith. This crushed me.
Yes, I guess it would! Love is like this sometimes.
I tried explaining to her how I understand and support her beliefs, but I wasn't likely to change mine. I grew up with a brother who was extremely athiest, and it was impossible for me to not to follow him. But seeing now how my life is, I wish I were Christian. But I beleive that it won't happen. As much as I would like it, it's just hard for me to undo two decades of non-belief. Seeing as this is the case, I still want to be with her. I need help. Is it possible for this to work out, assuming I don't covert to Christianity?
If she's just a nominal Christian, one who isn't actually a born-again follower of Christ, then she may end up compromising her "faith" in order to have a relationship with you. If, however, she loves God and wants to honor Him in every part of her life, then she is obliged to follow God's commands, one of which is the following:
2 Corinthians 6:14-15
14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?
Essentially, this passage commands Christian believers to avoid close, intimate relationships with non-believers. The apostle Paul explains that there is a fundamental philosophical and spiritual antagonism or opposition between a believer and an unbeliever that makes intimate relationships between the two a very bad idea.
Is there anything I can say to her that might make her feel safe and okay with my ways of life?
If you truly love her, you would respect her desire to obey her God and leave her be. Why should your desire for her supercede her desire to walk rightly with her Maker? True love is fundamentally self-sacrificing. How much you truly love her, then, will be revealed by how much of what you want you are willing to sacrifice for her sake. Will you press her to compromise her faith, or will you support it by backing off? WHat is more important? What
you want or what
she wants? Just how much do you really, truly love her?
I love this girl very, very much. I don't want to lose her. I will do anything in my power to not let that happen. Please help me guys/girls.
You have allowed your heart to open to someone who is not compatible with you (as you are now). "How can two walk together unless they be agreed?" When the romantic passion subsides between you (were you to get together), as it always does with every couple, the differences between you will move to the foreground of your relationship. You will not be agreed, so you cannot walk together. And without any philosophical or spiritual common ground for the two of you to stand on united, your differences will sink your relationship very rapidly. This is a story that has played itself out over and over and over again. It always ends in misery and heartache.
You could, of course, make her compromise her faith for your sake. Or, you could you abandon your atheism for a personal relationship with God. Do you really want either of these possibilities?
Selah.