Hello brothers and sisters. Hope all is well with you.
There is turmoil in my relationship with my 14 year old sister, Greta. A little background about us.....when Greta was born, it was like I had to be a mother figure to her since our mother is mentally disabled. Over the years, it is like I became more of a second mom, than a sister. I do not live with my mom and sister, but visit them once a week or 2 weeks to try to do things with Greta and be more of a sister than a sole disciplinary person or a extra parent. It was rocky, but ok...slowly we were getting to know each other as sisters. However, when things like failing grades, skipping school, hanging will the bad crowd, hitting and bullying our disabled mom and destroying the house when she cannot have her way, and wanting to dress seductively for male attention was discovered, our "fun sister times" stopped. Greta is deserving of love and wants to be a free, well-rounded, and successful person, so I try to get our mom to be the assertive and disciplinary mother instead of myself , but it doesn't work. Our mom never wanted to be a mother in the first place , so has "just giving up" it seems. I am tried of doing the mothering (throwing away unholy and seductive clothes, looking at school attendance and grades, taking away cell phones, etc.) And Greta hates me very much and doesn't want me around because of it.
What are you all's advise for the situation? Do you (or anyone you know) have to deal with teens?
There is turmoil in my relationship with my 14 year old sister, Greta. A little background about us.....when Greta was born, it was like I had to be a mother figure to her since our mother is mentally disabled. Over the years, it is like I became more of a second mom, than a sister. I do not live with my mom and sister, but visit them once a week or 2 weeks to try to do things with Greta and be more of a sister than a sole disciplinary person or a extra parent. It was rocky, but ok...slowly we were getting to know each other as sisters. However, when things like failing grades, skipping school, hanging will the bad crowd, hitting and bullying our disabled mom and destroying the house when she cannot have her way, and wanting to dress seductively for male attention was discovered, our "fun sister times" stopped. Greta is deserving of love and wants to be a free, well-rounded, and successful person, so I try to get our mom to be the assertive and disciplinary mother instead of myself , but it doesn't work. Our mom never wanted to be a mother in the first place , so has "just giving up" it seems. I am tried of doing the mothering (throwing away unholy and seductive clothes, looking at school attendance and grades, taking away cell phones, etc.) And Greta hates me very much and doesn't want me around because of it.
What are you all's advise for the situation? Do you (or anyone you know) have to deal with teens?