Hi everyone, I'm new here. I got married at a young age and I've been married to my husband for 7 years now. When we celebrated our 7th anniversary, I started thinking back on our first years of marriage. We barely had any premarital counseling, and boy did we feel it.
We both have struggled with inappropriate content. I stopped watching 5 years ago, and my husband earlier this year after a hard battle with lots of tears and me loving him through the times he fell.
I was controlling at the beginning of our marriage, because I knew it all right? We (mostly I) would argue for so long, and not get anywhere. And when we would give up, fall on our knees and pray Jesus would somehow bring peace in the midst of an ugly storm.
We've struggled with sex. At first he was not satisfied because my sex drive plummeted when we just got married (thanks a lot hormonal birth control). Then I was unsatisfied when he was too tired after getting a new job.
We have had a hard time communicating, he was very reserved and did not open up about anything, while I was very opinionated and always right. So by me saying what I thought and what we had to do, he would just agree to 'keep the peace', and we just grew apart more and more.
I am very happy to say that now our marriage is better than ever. We have both overcome inappropriate content addictions, have both faced our weaknesses head on (and still are in a few aspects) and are communicating well, we are open and honest about everything and we're not struggling with sex anymore. God answers prayers.
If I could tell my newly married self one thing it would be: "Get help either from other couples or in counseling. It won't always be easy, but it is so worth it! Don't let pride get in your way of seeking help. Every couple faces challenges. You don't need to be ashamed of yours."
What were your biggest struggles your first years of marriage? And what would you advise your newlywed self?
And if you are a newlywed; struggling or wondering if you made the right decision, I want you to know one thing: you are not alone and there is always hope.
We both have struggled with inappropriate content. I stopped watching 5 years ago, and my husband earlier this year after a hard battle with lots of tears and me loving him through the times he fell.
I was controlling at the beginning of our marriage, because I knew it all right? We (mostly I) would argue for so long, and not get anywhere. And when we would give up, fall on our knees and pray Jesus would somehow bring peace in the midst of an ugly storm.
We've struggled with sex. At first he was not satisfied because my sex drive plummeted when we just got married (thanks a lot hormonal birth control). Then I was unsatisfied when he was too tired after getting a new job.
We have had a hard time communicating, he was very reserved and did not open up about anything, while I was very opinionated and always right. So by me saying what I thought and what we had to do, he would just agree to 'keep the peace', and we just grew apart more and more.
I am very happy to say that now our marriage is better than ever. We have both overcome inappropriate content addictions, have both faced our weaknesses head on (and still are in a few aspects) and are communicating well, we are open and honest about everything and we're not struggling with sex anymore. God answers prayers.
If I could tell my newly married self one thing it would be: "Get help either from other couples or in counseling. It won't always be easy, but it is so worth it! Don't let pride get in your way of seeking help. Every couple faces challenges. You don't need to be ashamed of yours."
What were your biggest struggles your first years of marriage? And what would you advise your newlywed self?
And if you are a newlywed; struggling or wondering if you made the right decision, I want you to know one thing: you are not alone and there is always hope.