I know my threads are long so I'll try to keep this one shorter.
In short my dad is the bionic man. Being someone who worked for 40+ years building commercial stoves (and moving them) its ripped apart his body over time. Hes had countless surgeries and other things done to him. He also has lots of metal replacement parts (and other materials) in his body like his spine, arm, hips...etc.
Well now that he is retired due to being unable to work from the body issues, he is going to have 4 surgeries. Two involve his arms. The muscles snapped off the bones, shriveled up and aren't fixable by normal means. His hand needs surgery to fix carpel tunnel. And the most dangerous one is he needs C6-C7 discs in his neck fixed since they almost destroyed and crushing his nerve and whats between the discs (hes in severe pain). Which doctors said theres a 50% chance of many various issues happening. Including the worst case scenario of ending up in a wheelchair if they even cut one of the nerves on accident.
So as many of you know my parents are the opposites. My dad is not perfect but hes tried to be a good christian father when I was growing up. He loves church, prayer, devotions, reading...etc. My mom not so much. She has little faith, never goes to church, doesn't really read her bible, pray...etc.
My dad of course is staying strong and knows God is in control of the surgeries. I mean obviously he has thought of the risks. My mom is in a state of depression, frustration and on edge now. More so then normal. She also is drinking more wine. When my she hugged my dad after crying my dad said "God in control dear!". My moms response was "Don't even say that stuff to me.." then something along the lines of looking at past things where "God wasn't there!".
My wife and I are trying to be encouraging to her but its not easy because shes so pessimistic. And sometimes we just want to ignore her crying/pity because we hate that she "talks the talk" about being a christian but doesn't walk the walk when not out in public. Especially considering the miracles God did to get my wife here to america.
Any advice on what to do with her? I know praying is one thing of course which we have been doing. And of course for those who know about my past, moving is possible in our future based on "other issues".
Also, do you think possibly God may be punishing her lack of faith by having so many trials happen to her? I mean if you have no faith in God and spend your time hating Him and taking His name in vain when mad, it would make sense that He is not going to provide relief sometimes right? I may be wrong of course. The trials she goes through tend to happen to her specifically, where as the good things tend to happen to my dad.
In short my dad is the bionic man. Being someone who worked for 40+ years building commercial stoves (and moving them) its ripped apart his body over time. Hes had countless surgeries and other things done to him. He also has lots of metal replacement parts (and other materials) in his body like his spine, arm, hips...etc.
Well now that he is retired due to being unable to work from the body issues, he is going to have 4 surgeries. Two involve his arms. The muscles snapped off the bones, shriveled up and aren't fixable by normal means. His hand needs surgery to fix carpel tunnel. And the most dangerous one is he needs C6-C7 discs in his neck fixed since they almost destroyed and crushing his nerve and whats between the discs (hes in severe pain). Which doctors said theres a 50% chance of many various issues happening. Including the worst case scenario of ending up in a wheelchair if they even cut one of the nerves on accident.
So as many of you know my parents are the opposites. My dad is not perfect but hes tried to be a good christian father when I was growing up. He loves church, prayer, devotions, reading...etc. My mom not so much. She has little faith, never goes to church, doesn't really read her bible, pray...etc.
My dad of course is staying strong and knows God is in control of the surgeries. I mean obviously he has thought of the risks. My mom is in a state of depression, frustration and on edge now. More so then normal. She also is drinking more wine. When my she hugged my dad after crying my dad said "God in control dear!". My moms response was "Don't even say that stuff to me.." then something along the lines of looking at past things where "God wasn't there!".
My wife and I are trying to be encouraging to her but its not easy because shes so pessimistic. And sometimes we just want to ignore her crying/pity because we hate that she "talks the talk" about being a christian but doesn't walk the walk when not out in public. Especially considering the miracles God did to get my wife here to america.
Any advice on what to do with her? I know praying is one thing of course which we have been doing. And of course for those who know about my past, moving is possible in our future based on "other issues".
Also, do you think possibly God may be punishing her lack of faith by having so many trials happen to her? I mean if you have no faith in God and spend your time hating Him and taking His name in vain when mad, it would make sense that He is not going to provide relief sometimes right? I may be wrong of course. The trials she goes through tend to happen to her specifically, where as the good things tend to happen to my dad.
