Adopting as a single person

[Joined2krist]

Hi, I'm looking to do this very soon, if you have done it before please let me know what you experienced, what I need to be prepared for and any other thing you think I should know, God bless

 

[thecolorsblend]

Why? Just why?

 

[Joined2krist]

Why? Just why?

What's wrong?

 

[Dave-W]

What's wrong?

There is a bent in certain christian camps that considers single parenthood to be immoral.

 

[Anthony2019]

I was adopted by a single parent and it all turned out very well for me.

 

[thecolorsblend]

There is a bent in certain christian camps that considers single parenthood to be immoral.

I wouldn’t go so far as to call it immoral.

Other things, yes. But not really immoral.

 

[Dave-W]

I wouldn’t go so far as to call it immoral.
Other things, yes. But not really immoral.

You are Catholic.

I have heard "immoral" from both the Fundamentalist baptist and Wesleyan Holiness groups.

 

[mina]

One of my friends adopted 2 children while she was single and in her late 20's. She loves kids and wanted to help a child while she had the means to do so. She had a great job and income and a large family and church that gave her lots of support. She adopted both as babies and they are happy , healthy, kids now. She fostered first and both kids were children she adopted from the foster system- it worked out both times for her although it doesn't always work out that way. She is dating someone and it's probably headed towards marriage and he has no problem with her kids or her having adopted them while single.

 

[Dave-W]

One of my friends adopted 2 children while she was single and in her late 20's.

How did her congregation react?

 

[mina]

Her dad was the pastor and most of her family attends there and most non-family church members were supportive. I never heard anything negative from the church about it. I'm sure there were a few old biddies that wagged their tongue about it, but I guess she didn't care what they thought. She wasn't having children out of wedlock or sleeping around; she was trying to give children in unfortunate situations a better life and a chance to know Christ. She started out fostering children and then was able to adopt. Like I said before, she had a great job with a great income so she wasn't asking for handouts or financial support. I don't know if she set out to adopt, but she did set out to foster and the adoptions grew out of that. She is extremely pro-life and the congregation is as well and I suppose they see it as helping improve the quality of a child's life. This is a conservative Southern Baptist church. She also gives a lot personally and does fundraising to help others foster and adopt.

 

[Joined2krist]

There is a bent in certain christian camps that considers single parenthood to be immoral.

Immoral? but no sexual act occurred. I'm just trying to help someone that's all

 

[Joined2krist]

I was adopted by a single parent and it all turned out very well for me.

Thank you, you've made this easier for me. God bless

 

[Joined2krist]

I wouldn’t go so far as to call it immoral.

Other things, yes. But not really immoral.

What other things?

 

[Joined2krist]

One of my friends adopted 2 children while she was single and in her late 20's. She loves kids and wanted to help a child while she had the means to do so. She had a great job and income and a large family and church that gave her lots of support. She adopted both as babies and they are happy , healthy, kids now. She fostered first and both kids were children she adopted from the foster system- it worked out both times for her although it doesn't always work out that way. She is dating someone and it's probably headed towards marriage and he has no problem with her kids or her having adopted them while single.

Thank you

 

[JCFantasy23]

As someone who spent most of my life as a single mother, I can tell you that having a child brings great joy in your life. If you feel led to do this, I'm sure it will turn out great and will be helping out a child in need at the same time.

 

[thecolorsblend]

What other things?

I might get banned for answering that.

 

[Dave-W]

Immoral? but no sexual act occurred. I'm just trying to help someone that's all

I get that.

But judgemental people in any camp are not happy if there is no one to criticize.

And if they do not call the single parent "immoral," they say the child needs both father and mother to develop according to God's ways.

 

[mina]

OH there was also a widow in her 40's (maybe) at another church I attended that adopted a little girl from China. It was another conservative Baptist church. She and her husband had been missionaries to China and they had no children of their own. I don't know the details, but she knew the family and was able to adopt and bring her over; it was about 10 years ago. The congregation and the pastor were supportive; again she was giving a child that would have had heartache and nothing a better life and a chance to know the Lord. The girl is a young adult now and is planning to be a missionary herself. She's also extremely talented musically and gives concerts at churches and shares her testimony. She seems to hhave turned out pretty well having a godly single mom who wanted her and adopted her. It drastically changed the course of her life for the good.

if your life is stable and you have the support , I don't think it's wrong to adopt to help a child , give them a loving and safe home, and have a godly impact in their life. Pharaoh 's daughter adopted Moses and saved him from harm and gave him a better life that fit into God's plan for him.

 

[thecolorsblend]

they say the child needs both father and mother to develop according to God's ways.

Do you deny that?

 

[JustRachel]

Ideally, I think a father and mother would be the way to go. However, I believe that a single person taking in a child with no home, nobody to love them, no real hope for a decent future in this world, should be applauded! God bless you.