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My husband drew this cartoon of me.
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The background: I grew up very poor. That means not enough attention to hygiene and personal appearance. Things like soap, energy to heat water, and grooming supplies cost money. So do salon haircuts and well-fitting clothes in good repair. To save money, my hair was cut (badly) at home, and my clothes were second-hand. I looked shabby and unkempt at school, and was bullied for it. In third grade when my permanent teeth came in, my two front teeth stuck out like Bugs Bunny. As you can imagine, that among other things is exactly what my classmates called me. Again, my parents couldn't afford to do anything about it, or at least, that was the excuse they used.
In eighth grade, because of the extreme bullying I faced at school, a kind guidance counselor took up a collection for me and funded braces, which straightened my teeth.
In tenth grade when the braces came off, that's about when I started gaining weight. At this point, still more bullying. Where before I was called Bugs Bunny, I was now called a beached whale. When I graduated from high school, got married, and had children, my first husband continued the tradition. School bullying from classmates turned into verbal abuse from him. Which is one of the many reasons he's my ex.
In the present, my now-and-forever husband and I are conditioning our bodies for bariatric surgery, and how to eat afterward. When we lose the weight, we've been told in no uncertain terms, the insurance does not cover any reconstructive surgery for the sagging skin. IF a patient has had three documented and treated infections as a result of the hanging folds, THEN a panniculectomy (removal of excess skin from the abdomen) may be done. But only if, and only that. Never mind sagging arms, legs, or anything else. I can tell you for sure, we can't afford that out of pocket. If insurance doesn't cover it, we'll end up looking like a couple of Shar Peis, tripping over our own skin as it drags the ground.
So, the depressing thought: There is and always will be something that causes me to be unattractive. First the shabby appearance and bad haircuts. Then the buck teeth. Then the weight gain for real. Every problem has been solved. I escaped poverty, to the glory of God. I got my teeth fixed. I've lost *some* weight, can't lose it all on my own, but soon will. And now I'm getting older. Gray hair and wrinkles are coming, sure enough, even without the skin folds leftover from the surgery. At no stage in my life will I ever be beautiful.
And what I keep telling myself: It's not MY beauty I'm supposed to be glorying in.
Isn't HE, our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, beautiful beyond description? That's the beauty I need to concentrate on.
In eighth grade, because of the extreme bullying I faced at school, a kind guidance counselor took up a collection for me and funded braces, which straightened my teeth.
In tenth grade when the braces came off, that's about when I started gaining weight. At this point, still more bullying. Where before I was called Bugs Bunny, I was now called a beached whale. When I graduated from high school, got married, and had children, my first husband continued the tradition. School bullying from classmates turned into verbal abuse from him. Which is one of the many reasons he's my ex.
In the present, my now-and-forever husband and I are conditioning our bodies for bariatric surgery, and how to eat afterward. When we lose the weight, we've been told in no uncertain terms, the insurance does not cover any reconstructive surgery for the sagging skin. IF a patient has had three documented and treated infections as a result of the hanging folds, THEN a panniculectomy (removal of excess skin from the abdomen) may be done. But only if, and only that. Never mind sagging arms, legs, or anything else. I can tell you for sure, we can't afford that out of pocket. If insurance doesn't cover it, we'll end up looking like a couple of Shar Peis, tripping over our own skin as it drags the ground.
So, the depressing thought: There is and always will be something that causes me to be unattractive. First the shabby appearance and bad haircuts. Then the buck teeth. Then the weight gain for real. Every problem has been solved. I escaped poverty, to the glory of God. I got my teeth fixed. I've lost *some* weight, can't lose it all on my own, but soon will. And now I'm getting older. Gray hair and wrinkles are coming, sure enough, even without the skin folds leftover from the surgery. At no stage in my life will I ever be beautiful.
And what I keep telling myself: It's not MY beauty I'm supposed to be glorying in.
Isn't HE, our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, beautiful beyond description? That's the beauty I need to concentrate on.