A Question of Age...

[DaNorthernLight]

Greetings! As my avatar states, I'm 19... but in my travels I've dated 2 women once (first one was 24, and the second one was 22). Both being failures, I gave up on dating for the time being until I can try to make sense of a number of things. Onto the question:

I see older men taking younger women all the time. What about the opposite? Do you find anything unusual about n ex-teenager dating a woman in her 30s? Given how much I like older women, I've put myself in this picture more times than I feel for comfort, and I'm not sure why. I'm sure it's just desperation because of the place that I live, but most younger women I know are either non-Christian, or if they even are: have really messed up lives already. That being almost besides the point, I sometimes find myself admiring the stability of older women - primarily mentally. I may be wrong, but most women in their 30s have a beautiful concreteness of personality that has a genuineness in the way they handle themselves and other things.

Am I wrong? Am I just frying off the pan here?

 

[fishstix]

It's perfectly fine to have a couple where the man is younger than the woman.

Large age gaps, such as the gap from 19 to 30, are usually unwise. Sometimes they can work, but more often than not, the difference in life stage between the two people becomes a big problem, regardless of whether the man or woman is older. The younger the people are, the more problematic large age gaps can be. For example, a 5 year age gap is probably no big deal for two people in their 30's, but for two people in their teens, 5 years is huge.

It's ok to be attracted to older women, but generally it would be unwise to pursue a relationship with someone who is in a completely different stage of life than you are in.

 

[DaNorthernLight]

It's perfectly fine to have a couple where the man is younger than the woman.

Large age gaps, such as the gap from 19 to 30, are usually unwise. Sometimes they can work, but more often than not, the difference in life stage between the two people becomes a big problem, regardless of whether the man or woman is older. The younger the people are, the more problematic large age gaps can be. For example, a 5 year age gap is probably no big deal for two people in their 30's, but for two people in their teens, 5 years is huge.

It's ok to be attracted to older women, but generally it would be unwise to pursue a relationship with someone who is in a completely different stage of life than you are in.

I agree that 19's not a good age to date women in their 30s... I still haven't come out of that shell I pulled myself into when I said I gave up dating...

Maybe I was also wondering if anyone else my age somehow admired women in the 30s age group. Maybe God's telling me that I shouldn't look for a wife until I reach that age... How sad, but if that's God's will I'll have to walk step by step...

 

[Sketcher]

Older women do seem to have a more respectable personality, though not in all cases.

 

[NoCompromise]

Love covers the gap that age creates...Read Proverbs...

 

[~HopeFloats~]

I guess my thoughts are what do you have in common.. are you ready to have a family cause in most liklihood ladies in their 30's have or want kids right away..

I even find myself with 30 plus year old there is a difference.


At 19 you are so young enjoy your life and get a career,

 

[DaNorthernLight]

I guess my thoughts are what do you have in common.. are you ready to have a family cause in most liklihood ladies in their 30's have or want kids right away..

I even find myself with 30 plus year old there is a difference.


At 19 you are so young enjoy your life and get a career,

At the path I'm on... it'd take time to be able to financially support children -- if I went back to college it'd ironically take me longer to do this since I'd be racking up a debt, and I'd be forfeiting this mentorship I have in the meat business.

Right now, I'm at a point in my life where I simply need to take life one step at a time-- to have no desire to see the end of a decision, but have God show me where to place my foot towards the next day. I need to stop grinding my teeth and start asking where to go. Though I've been depressed about my lack of friends and dates, but I've been encouraged by the mindset of God, and my very young age.

But there have been numerous times lately where I've found myself basking in the presence of an "older" woman. Sometimes I just wish that I could be friends with her so that I could learn from her, or find something more worthwhile than comming home from work and plopping onto my studio-headphones. I once had an opportunity to try to be friends with a random co-worker who was probably in her late-20s but I somehow shied away from it seeing how she was starting to respond to me.

Seeing how women are becomming less and less in existence as the months are wearing on, I sometimes think alot about sacrificing the comfort zone of an "age-group" for just some fellowship with the opposite sex. To be honest with you, I'm not sure why I'm bringing this up at the moment other than my inability to find women my age at all... the utter void of this agegroup has been the primary cause of this thread.