Are you out there? Are there Christian men who question the belief that men are to be the head of the women?
Don't confuse authority with reality. True marriage is a cooperation of everyone.
Ephesians 5:21-32International Children’s Bible (ICB)
Wives and Husbands
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Be willing to obey each other. Do this because you respect Christ.
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under the authority of your husbands, as of the Lord. 23 The husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church. The church is Christ’s body—Christ is the Savior of the body. 24
The church is under the authority of Christ. So it is the same with you wives. You should be under the authority of your husbands in everything.
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Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church. Christ died for the church 26 to make it belong to God. Christ used the word to make the church clean by washing it with water. 27
Christ died so that he could give the church to himself like a bride in all her beauty. He died so that the church could be pure and without fault, with no evil or sin or any other wrong thing in it. 28
And husbands should love their wives in the same way. They should love their wives as they love their own bodies. The man who loves his wife loves himself. 29 No person ever hates his own body, but feeds and takes care of it. And that is what Christ does for the church, 30 because we are parts of his body. 31 The Scripture says, “So a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife.
And the two people will become one body.” 32 That secret truth is very important—I am talking about Christ and the church.
Bottom line in our educated Society my wife is an expert in areas that is a mystery to me === managing budget and taxes. There are areas were she lets me think I am the expert in like car repair, painting the house and cutting the grass. We contentment each other.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?
1 Corinthians 12:14-20
For the body is not one member, but many. If the foot says, "Because I am not a hand, I am not a part of the body," it is not for this reason any the less a part of the body. And if the ear says, "Because I am not an eye, I am not a part of the body," it is not for this reason any the less a part of the body.
1 Peter 3:8-9
To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.
Proverbs 27:17 - As iron sharpens iron, so one person - Bible Gateway
As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
The fragrances of divine unity are best sensed in the relationship of David and Jonathan, son of Saul. When David was being hotly pursued by Saul, Jonathan sought David out “to help him find strength in God” (1 Samuel 23:16),
I am not saying there was a gay marriage there above text. But it shows, how relationships among those of different authority levels can be beneficial in a state of mind towards cooperation.
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1 TIMOTHY 3 about qualifications of church leaders. And, rate each qualification.