Ahh you grew up in a anticatholic context I get it.
I understand then that you're hesitant to pray to her ""as it's worship
"".
I know how incorporated that mambo jambo sometimes is as I have so many relatives that basically call me a Mary worshiper
I grew up non denominational myself so I endorsed Mary faster than alot of other converts that I know of could ever do.
The beauty of Mary is that one cannot emphasise her role and love her name to greatly ad she always point at Christ.
The more I venerate her the more I worship Christ.
She is there watching over her children regardless of our feelings for her though.
It's not like she gets insulted or anything I believe.
We're not all that tough in the end of the day, not to tough to cling to our mama at least I know I'm not.