A man being attracted to heroism in women: Godly, or ungodly?

[GospelS]

Now admittedly, part of the reason is because of my own flaws. I'm sorely lacking in bravery and courage, and I'm physically weak as well. So in my mind, I need someone who has the emotional strength to act in spite of fear, and the physical strength to save others (of course, being armed can help).

I'm sorry to hear that you feel you have flaws and are lacking. I encourage you to reflect on what has made you feel this way about yourself. Your love for her should be sacrificial and unconditional, regardless of your imperfections and needs.

The Lord is your shield and protection. You have to learn how to lean on Him for safety. It can be harmful and evil to use someone else as a shield for your insecurities. I hope that as you marry and start a family, you will find the strength you seek to protect her.

Start with speaking the Word to your problem. The fear will leave, and courage will come. Jacob fights with both God and men and prevails. That exemplifies true masculinity. Esau's strength is devoid of wisdom, which renders him a loser rather than a warrior.

Esau was not the chosen soldier to confront the great challenges in God's Kingdom. Isaac, his father, admired this aspect because Esau hunted animals. This choice is only based on personal beliefs and agendas to what appeals to our human eyes, which are blind.

However, such strength is not valuable for sustaining a marriage. The Lord looks at the inner beauty and strength. Whatever kind of heroism you admire, if the Lord is not in it, then don't have any of it. It's not the way, it's not truth, it's not life.