A lady with Asperger's with a question

[Lioness901]

I am curious. Do you believe in romance yes or no?? If not why not?? How would you define romance?? Does romance go away after your married??

For me I dunno if I believe in romance or not. I like to think it exists but we do live in a fallen sinful world. For me romance is getting flowers and gifts unexpectedly without reason just because, getting love letters in the mail from someone when they live next door, calling me just to hear my voice, wanting to spend time with me just because, dancing with me when there is no music, going for walks in the rain, getting hugs and kisses when I don't expect them and when I do expect them, serenading me outside my house, opening doors for me, pulling out chairs for me to sit in, carrying me down steps so that I will not fall. When I think of romance I think of the Disney movies such as Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Snow White, Beauty And The Beast, The Little Mermaid etc. What is your opinion?? Are these childish thoughts that one needs to forget about?? Have you experienced what you would call romance?? Please share.

 

[FergusonTO35]

Hmm, I tried many of those things when I was single and they actually repelled women!

For me, real romance is knowing that I can trust my wife 100% and she can trust me 100%.

 

[FergusonTO35]

Hmm, I tried many of those things when I was single and they actually repelled women!

For me, real romance is knowing that I can trust my wife 100% and she can trust me 100%.

 

[MoeSzyslak]

I like FergusonT035's answer. However, my wife would take Lioness901's stance.

My wife once told me I don't do enough of spontaneous romantic stuff like you mentioned in your post. I created a program on my computer and once a week I would run it and it would choose a random romantic thing for me to do. It worked well. I have to get it up and running again.

 

[FergusonTO35]

I really think that we would be better off not to look to entertainment for images of what a romance should be like. Fairy tales are just that, fairy tales. I used to believe in them, and I really think those expectations kept me from finding a real romance for many years.

 

[HazelAngel]

I can say, romance does exist. I choose to be romantic when I want to be, and yes, fairytales may be just fairytales but they inspire people to be better. Thats what I think. I myself am a fan of Disney movies but I do not find them romantic, yes trusting that person you love counts as romance. Same with chocolates and flowers. That kind of thing to me is romantic.