OK so I am turning 17 this June. I have never dated before as my parents have always been against me dating until I am "old enough" not sure exactly what that means but I am pretty sure that I am almost old enough.
My doctrine:
I believe that hell is not eternal and is merely a(severely painful) means of annihilating a soul.
I believe that baptism is necessary or at least highly important for salvation.
I don't believe in faith healing or anything of that sort.
In my family we aren't allowed to watch any movies with any dodgy scenes at all. Regardless of whether or not anything is visible. We also don't use any even sightly taboo words. Damn,crap,hell(in there wrong context obviously), anything like that I would get in trouble for. (Although I do use them when my parents aren't around because I personally don't think they are that bad.)
I go to a reasonably liberal, predominantly Baptist school. So they believe in eternal hell, and salvation through faith alone.
There is one specific girl I have had my eye on for a while now. She is absolutely gorgeous and is partly the reason why I switched to that school from homeschooling. I was homeschooled from grade 2-8 and as such have become rather awkward when talking to girls even in a group. I am in grade 10 now. Due to my awkwardness,I don't know her that well but I know that she is a Christian. I know that she believes in an eternal hell like most other Christians. I am not sure about her beliefs on baptism but I have a feeling that she believes that it is necessary due to certain comments I have heard from her. If I do decide to go for her, I will ask her out beginning of next year as I will have a learners license by then. At the moment has a crush on a teacher. She is about a year and a few months younger than me and she has dated at least 5 different guys from my school (it's a really small school. ace system and only about 25 students in the high school class. I really don't have much options there as there are only three white girls in the seniors (not racist at all but I simply have no chemistry towards black girls. I just have no attraction towards them.) And one of the white girls is too old for me, although it could work in a few years maybe. The other white girl is blonde, Afrikaans, and IMHO ugly. She's also not that moral. The third white girl is beautiful, moral, and the one i am crushing on. Here are my questions:
1. Is 17 and a half too young for me to be dating?
2. I'm south Africa, someone with a license needs to accompany you when driving it you only have a learners. Would this make dates awkward? I live 30 minutes away from her so it would be very inconvenient for my parents to pick her up, drop us off somewhere, drive back home, then pick us back up again and drop her off. Would it be better to wait another half a year until I can get my driver's licence? Because I obviously don't want my parents on the date with me but I don't want to inconvenience then either. (I have taken a purity pledge, I have a purity ring and I know that it is unwise to go on a date that is private enough to lead to things. She also has a purity ring. So it wouldn't be inappropriate for me to pick her up without a chaperone. I can control myself.)
3. Could it be a problem that we have doctrinal differences?
4. Is it a problem that she has dated many people? I know for a fact that she has kissed, but I am confident that she has gone no further. Nevertheless, is it a sign of trouble that she has dated many different people (not at the same time obviously) and that she has dated a teacher? (The same teacher that she has a crush on currently.)
5. I know that she uses the word damn, which my parents might have a problem with. Thoughts?
6. How would I ask her out? I have never dated a girl, asked out a girl, kissed a girl (other than my baby sister) or even asked a girl for her number. The longest one-on one conversation I have ever had with a girl was about 20 minutes. I really am lost when it comes to girls.
I am not particularly handsome, and I am overweight. This is the reason I only plan to ask her out in a year. I have joined a gym and I am getting in shape so hopefully I will look good next year.
Please help out here.
My doctrine:
I believe that hell is not eternal and is merely a(severely painful) means of annihilating a soul.
I believe that baptism is necessary or at least highly important for salvation.
I don't believe in faith healing or anything of that sort.
In my family we aren't allowed to watch any movies with any dodgy scenes at all. Regardless of whether or not anything is visible. We also don't use any even sightly taboo words. Damn,crap,hell(in there wrong context obviously), anything like that I would get in trouble for. (Although I do use them when my parents aren't around because I personally don't think they are that bad.)
I go to a reasonably liberal, predominantly Baptist school. So they believe in eternal hell, and salvation through faith alone.
There is one specific girl I have had my eye on for a while now. She is absolutely gorgeous and is partly the reason why I switched to that school from homeschooling. I was homeschooled from grade 2-8 and as such have become rather awkward when talking to girls even in a group. I am in grade 10 now. Due to my awkwardness,I don't know her that well but I know that she is a Christian. I know that she believes in an eternal hell like most other Christians. I am not sure about her beliefs on baptism but I have a feeling that she believes that it is necessary due to certain comments I have heard from her. If I do decide to go for her, I will ask her out beginning of next year as I will have a learners license by then. At the moment has a crush on a teacher. She is about a year and a few months younger than me and she has dated at least 5 different guys from my school (it's a really small school. ace system and only about 25 students in the high school class. I really don't have much options there as there are only three white girls in the seniors (not racist at all but I simply have no chemistry towards black girls. I just have no attraction towards them.) And one of the white girls is too old for me, although it could work in a few years maybe. The other white girl is blonde, Afrikaans, and IMHO ugly. She's also not that moral. The third white girl is beautiful, moral, and the one i am crushing on. Here are my questions:
1. Is 17 and a half too young for me to be dating?
2. I'm south Africa, someone with a license needs to accompany you when driving it you only have a learners. Would this make dates awkward? I live 30 minutes away from her so it would be very inconvenient for my parents to pick her up, drop us off somewhere, drive back home, then pick us back up again and drop her off. Would it be better to wait another half a year until I can get my driver's licence? Because I obviously don't want my parents on the date with me but I don't want to inconvenience then either. (I have taken a purity pledge, I have a purity ring and I know that it is unwise to go on a date that is private enough to lead to things. She also has a purity ring. So it wouldn't be inappropriate for me to pick her up without a chaperone. I can control myself.)
3. Could it be a problem that we have doctrinal differences?
4. Is it a problem that she has dated many people? I know for a fact that she has kissed, but I am confident that she has gone no further. Nevertheless, is it a sign of trouble that she has dated many different people (not at the same time obviously) and that she has dated a teacher? (The same teacher that she has a crush on currently.)
5. I know that she uses the word damn, which my parents might have a problem with. Thoughts?
6. How would I ask her out? I have never dated a girl, asked out a girl, kissed a girl (other than my baby sister) or even asked a girl for her number. The longest one-on one conversation I have ever had with a girl was about 20 minutes. I really am lost when it comes to girls.
I am not particularly handsome, and I am overweight. This is the reason I only plan to ask her out in a year. I have joined a gym and I am getting in shape so hopefully I will look good next year.
Please help out here.