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My son was raised Catholic, and so was his fiancee. Both now say they are not Catholic. They say they are "Christian" or "Nondenominational" and they are attending a Pentecostal church. In my son's case it is because basically he does not accept transubstantiation and the Mass bores him to tears. I know it sounds shallow, but he just does better with a more entertaining format. In her case, she fell in with a crowd that did the typical "Marianism is wrong, vereration of saints is wrong, there is no Pope in the Bible," etc.
Although I care about my faith, my attitude is that my son is a grown man who is capable now of making his own decisions. Of COURSE I'd love for them to be married in a Catholic church -- duh! And if not that, I'd love it to be any church. But the only time I'm going to start getting weird is if it's not a religious ceremony at all. My attitude is that whatever the bride wants is what we need to do.
Her parents are very devout. They are pushing for a Catholic wedding. What makes it extra significant is that she comes from a culture where the father is the head of the family and you do not question him, you simply obey.
It is putting her in an awkward situation. Part of her wants to assert herself as a non- Catholic. Part of her wants to be the good daughter -- after all, is a Catholic wedding really so bad?
But you can imagine the interesting scene it would be when the priest meets with them and says, "Your father has told me you are both baptized Catholics," and they say, "Well, yes, but we aren't Catholic anymore." That, I think, is the only honest presentation, and if they do give that honest answer, I just can't see that working out.
Has anyone ever had any experience with these sort of things?
OMGosh, and in the back of my head I'm thinking, "They may say they are no longer Catholic, but if they marry outside of the Church, they will not have a valid marriage." HELP!!!!!
Although I care about my faith, my attitude is that my son is a grown man who is capable now of making his own decisions. Of COURSE I'd love for them to be married in a Catholic church -- duh! And if not that, I'd love it to be any church. But the only time I'm going to start getting weird is if it's not a religious ceremony at all. My attitude is that whatever the bride wants is what we need to do.
Her parents are very devout. They are pushing for a Catholic wedding. What makes it extra significant is that she comes from a culture where the father is the head of the family and you do not question him, you simply obey.
It is putting her in an awkward situation. Part of her wants to assert herself as a non- Catholic. Part of her wants to be the good daughter -- after all, is a Catholic wedding really so bad?
But you can imagine the interesting scene it would be when the priest meets with them and says, "Your father has told me you are both baptized Catholics," and they say, "Well, yes, but we aren't Catholic anymore." That, I think, is the only honest presentation, and if they do give that honest answer, I just can't see that working out.
Has anyone ever had any experience with these sort of things?
OMGosh, and in the back of my head I'm thinking, "They may say they are no longer Catholic, but if they marry outside of the Church, they will not have a valid marriage." HELP!!!!!