Originally Posted by
pobodysnerfect
No person has a right to sin and then blame someone else for it. We are all accountable for our actions, inactions and choices.
However, we are also called as individuals NOT to cause another to stumble.
If I can help ease the temptation of sexual sin in my dh, I will do so.
I truly cannot understand all the resistance to this topic when we are not discussing sex with monstrous men, but just the average run of the mill, hardworking, honest, loyal, faithful, imperfect but doing their best to be loving husbands.
Then ATHENE: (forgive me if I messed up your name
)Because it seems a perversion of what sex should be about. Here you seem to present it, not as a mutually enjoyable and beneficial thing, but something the wife does for the husband so he can get off and therefore won't turn his attentions elsewhere. Earlier JRSUT(?) talked about if 15 minutes really matters, the implication being - just go get it over with because it's only for a few minutes.
Why wouldn't I resist this?
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How is it a perversion? My dh's drive and need is different than mine. I accept that. I accept that my willingness to embrace it and meet that need blesses *him* as well as *myself*. (I have found that when we bless others, we are blessed in return) The physical desire for sex does not have to lead us..its out minds that should. If our minds are open to sex, our bodies will follow right along in a loving, no past sexual abuse issues, marriage.
Dh's want to have sex with us because it is how they feel and express love.
I just really feel like this is waaaay harder than it needs to be.