I would just add here that it does not follow that someone is a supporter of "the father of all lies," just because they don't go for all of the Ellen White mantra that some Adventists bandy about so out of context.
For eg, the Great Controversy, in proper context could be explained much differently to people, in a much better, much more practical context.
A number of years ago, a young woman dying of cancer showed this principle to me very clearly. Now this lady made some bad choices in her lifestyle, I think, that likely caused the cancer which killed her. And even though it has been years since this happened, my ears are still stinging from some of the ones who condemned her over this.
I went to see her in The Tom Baker Cancer Center one day, and at the time; I had no idea she would be gone the next day, but I really wanted to see her about something, so I just went this one day, and I am glad I did.
When I walked into the room; she looked bad...very white, diaphoretic, labored breathing, and she appeared to be wincing/squirming because of pain. I had done some nursing in my past, so I helped her get her oxygen on correctly, and this seemed to help a bit.
I asked her how she was doing, and after a very long silence, she looked up at me from the bed, and tried to smile. She couldn't very well though, I could see she was having a lot of trouble. So I took her hand, and looked her in the eye, and just started bawling. I said through those tears how that I really appreciated her efforts in/for the church, and how she had always been such a blessing to me. Then I just hugged her and said haltingly: "I am really going to miss you."
She looked up at me with what I saw as very understanding eyes, and this time, she not only smiled, but started to tell me something in a very soft whisper:
"Please, get me that shoe box from my bedside table". As I handed it to her, she started to say: "This my my promise box. Since I have been in here; people have been coming in and saying different promises and inspirational things, and sometimes it would be in cards, so I have been jotting them all down on little scraps of paper. They are all very special to me; and I look through them everyday. But there is one, really special one, that is my favorite, and I really want to share it with you now:
WE SHOULD ACQUAINT OURSELVES
NOW WITH GOD
BY PROVING HIS PROMISES (GC pg 622)"
This phrase hit me like a hammer, and I never forgot it. It totally changed my outlook on that book,and i would never be ashamed to share it because of this dear friend with cancer who showed me the correct way to use Ellen White's writings. I think it is permanently etched into my brain. It was a real encouragement to me the next day when I got the news that she had died. When I see real life cases like this where the spirit of prophecy leads people to Christ, and His promises, and to His Word, thats the kind of context I can see my way clear to share with others. All this right and wrong stuff is not real life, and it creates winners and losers. Ellen White would never approve of her writings being used like that.
Please remember this story, and that phrase I just quoted from GC pg 622 the next time you talk to others about Ellen White. That's how she would have wanted it.