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3 days sober

Discussion in 'Addictions & Substances' started by Pinball Guy, Jan 13, 2018.

  1. Pinball Guy

    Pinball Guy New Member Supporter

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    Hi all I am a born again Christian and also an alcoholic.
    I have been drinking on and off for 37 years (since the age of 13).
    The last couple years the drinking has ramped up to stronger drinks, mixing spirits with beer, secret drinking. The last few weeks I have suffered memory loss and have been verbally abusive to my family. When my 18 year old son accused me of being drunk it was the last straw and the next day I knew I had to stop once and for all. That was 3 days ago.
    I also suffer from extreme anxiety usually regarding my work, for which I am on medication for, of course I have also been self medicating with alcohol.
    I am active in our church and also preach sometimes.
    I am requesting feedback, advice and prayer support please.

    Blessings to all
    Pinball Guy
     
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  2. Bluerose31

    Bluerose31 Christian Flower Supporter

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    I am so sorry you have suffered so much. I will pray that Jesus helps heal you and protects you and guides you.
     
  3. Antig

    Antig Active Member

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    I empathise with you.

    I have taken secret drink into work with me to get me through my shift.

    I have turned to alcohol when everything in life is black. I understand. Alcohol helps me to push lifes issues to one side. Thing is, i know it is temporary! I know i need God so much.

    Its hard to stop. Its hard to give advice.

    One has to live in the shoes of the sufferer.

    I am going through hell myself at the mo. I love God. I will NEVER give up on God.

    Be strong friend. Trust in God. Thats all you can do.

    TRUST IN GOD.

    Blessings
     
  4. gym_class_hero

    gym_class_hero Well-Known Member

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    avoid situations where you know you will be tempted. A wise man said, "its easier to avoid temptation than it is to resist it..."
     
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  5. 2Timothy2:15

    2Timothy2:15 Well-Known Member

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    Stopping is the first part, being delivered is the next step. Honestly you should not be preaching in your current state.
     
  6. St_Worm2

    St_Worm2 Simul Justus et Peccator Supporter

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    Praying for you @Pinball Guy and PTL for your first 3 days sober!!

    If you have not done so already, you should make this problem something that at least your elder board knows about (so that they can be praying for you and supporting you in other ways too). Secret drinking and especially using drugs and alcohol to "self-medicate" is about as sure a sign as we have that we are addicts/alcoholics, not just heavy social drinkers/drug users, so staying sober is not something you are going to be able to do alone/in secret. Rather, you are going to need a lot of prayer and hands on support/help, unless the Lord heals you of your addiction, of course (which you could certainly pray for and have others pray for as well). I know that this is an incredibly tough thing to tell others about, but addiction is a disease, and you are going to need all the help and support you can get.

    Yours and His,
    David
     
  7. Another Lazarus

    Another Lazarus Old Newbie

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    I was a heavey smoker once, but i just stop it.

    I was also a drinker once, i just stop it.

    You need to just STOP IT without arguments and murmuring then it will stop and you regain consciousness and prevent CKD (chronicle kidney disease) and worn out liver and heart burnt by alcohol. you will also recover from memory loss and slow recognition.

    God has provided enormous kinds of beverages
    healthy for us such as juices.

    Our body is the Temple of God !
     
  8. Pinball Guy

    Pinball Guy New Member Supporter

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    Hi thank you all for your supporting replies, advice and prayers.
    To answer the question regarding meds I have tried to cut them out before and slipped back into panic attacks. The Doc says I have generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) The meds do help level thinks out a lot. I have a loving supportive, wife and family which is also a great help.
    Thanks for all the comments.

    Blessings
    Pinball Guy
     
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  9. chilehed

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    My suggestion: join AA, get a sponsor, and work the steps. Works every time.
     
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  10. John Goodness

    John Goodness Member Supporter

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    Fully agree. I have a different addiction myself, which started when I was 13 as well. I have shared this in some of my posts here. What is working for me is being able to join our recovery program in our local church, and getting together on a weekly basis with other people who want to recover from different type of addictions. Our program follows the 12step principle that's been successful in AA.

    I hope you find support around you. God loves you very much, and a lot of times, He works through other people.
     
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  11. Pinball Guy

    Pinball Guy New Member Supporter

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    Thanks for the encouraging words, it all goes a long way.
     
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  12. dgiharris

    dgiharris Newbie

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    I used to volunteer in an AA clinic and I absolutely feel AA is vital to staying sober.

    Conquering an addiction is akin to guarding a bank against a million thieves that are plotting and scheming to rob that bank every single day.

    The guards have to be vigilant 100% of the time every day, every second. However, the thieves only have to get lucky once.

    Stop and think about the enormity of that situation. ON one side of the battle line (i.e. your sobriety), it requires you to be vigilant 100% of the time. On the other side of the battle line (i.e. your addiction) all it needs is a "single" point of weakness or failure to slip past your barriers and guards and hit you when you are vulnerable.

    Fighting addiction is like siege warfare. You are beset by enemies on all sides every second of every hour of every day...

    SO what that means is you have to be strategic and tactical in your defense.
    #1) Don't trust yourself: Realize that you are your worst enemy in fighting your addiction which kinda sucks since you are the only person who can fight your addiction. I know, it's a paradox. THis leads to #2
    #2) Remove Temptation anyway you can: No alcohol in the house, don't associate with friends that drink around you, don't go to places where alcohol is easily accessible, etc etc
    #3) Join a support group like AA: It is vital you have support. You can't win this battle alone.
    #4) Be wary of advice from non-addicts: Non addicts simply do not understand nor comprehend what goes on inside the head of an addict. And how could they? They have no clue that for addicts, drinking is as necessary as breathing.
    #5) Realize recovery takes ACTIVE WORK: Simply "not" drinking is not enough. You need to read, you need to journal, you need to go to meetings, you need replace your bad habits with good habits, you need to identify your triggers then take ACTIVE steps to insulate and protect yourself, you need to eliminate the people, places, and things that trigger your drinking, etc

    best of luck to you
     
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  13. Ancient of Days

    Ancient of Days Well-Known Member Supporter

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    "Hi all I am a born again Christian and also an alcoholic.
    I have been drinking on and off for 37 years (since the age of 13).
    The last couple years the drinking has ramped up to stronger drinks, mixing spirits with beer, secret drinking. The last few weeks I have suffered memory loss and have been verbally abusive to my family. When my 18 year old son accused me of being drunk it was the last straw and the next day I knew I had to stop once and for all. That was 3 days ago.
    I also suffer from extreme anxiety usually regarding my work, for which I am on medication for, of course I have also been self medicating with alcohol.
    I am active in our church and also preach sometimes.
    I am requesting feedback, advice and prayer support please."

    I celebrated 9 years of sobriety on 1/11/18.
    Advice: Pray, ask God for help.
    Go to AA, 90 meetings in 90 days for a start.
    GET A SPONSOR! CALL YOUR SPONSOR!
    PM me if you want to talk...
     
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  14. CallofChrist

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    Sober 10 years here.... it just gets better with time! God bless everyone here and may our LORD be with you in the midst of good times and struggles. We need Him!

    never stop trying to quit, even if you slip.... it'lll take eventually, with God's grace.
     
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  15. HoustonReborn

    HoustonReborn New Member

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    I am coming up on three months sober soon. I did it only through Alcoholics Anonymous and God. Work all of the 12 steps, get a sponsor, and help others in the program and you too will be on your way to recovery. Seek to do His will daily, not your own. Prayers for you.
     
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  16. Charlie84

    Charlie84 New Member

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    I will be praying for you PG. As someone who has suffered with addiction for years myself, I know how hard those first days can be. If you feel like you're going to sin, come talk to us instead xx
     
  17. Frank In Christ

    Frank In Christ New Member

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    Seek a higher power.
     
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