Side note going back to the OP:
My wife and I had lunch today with the pastor and his wife...we discussed this subject in detail...in regards to this verse, the pastor believes the translation to be better rendered as "One woman man." He explained how there are many people that he has known that have been married more than once, but would be considered one woman men, in that they don't stray, they don't wander and what have you...he also said he knew plenty of people that have only been married once, but could not be considered one woman men, because of their lust, fornication and adultery...he said the biggest thing that the church looks at when setting someone aside for the position of deacon or elder is their character, are they above reproach?
We discussed divorce at great length, and agreed that it's not an unpardonable sin, as many make it out to be...but, we also agree that it should be a last resort. We also discussed restitution, and how that should be handled in regards to divorce and remarriage...should a repentant spouse, looking for resolution divorce their current spouse and remarry the previous one? Of course not...that only causes more sin, and more people being hurt...he said he believes the proper way in this regard is to make a vow to God to be the best husband or wife you can be in the current marriage, and live up to that promise...
It was a very fruitful conversation. My wife and I had been anxious about this meeting, and felt that this would be a very big deciding factor on whether or not this was going to be our home church...we feel even more so now, after having this conversation, that this is where He wants us for this season.