Or someone with a guilty conscience?
E.g.
Not all men are guilty of violence and sexism – but all men have a responsibility to stop those crimes
As well as thousands of similar, cringeworthy articles in the wake of Weinstein/#metoo about how men have to ‘do better’ because of the actions of a few*.
More and more I keep thinking, with people who are outspoken on equality issues like Louis C.K. and George Takei falling under accusations recently - this line would be great cover for an abuser.
For example:
‘Yes, I have harassed women myself. But really, don’t you see how all men are responsible for this?”
The abuser’s guilt/responsibility is assuaged and minimised by passing it on to the male gender entire, while virtue-signalling to throw people off the abuser’s own trail.
Discuss.
*As a secondary topic, note how it is only men being told to ‘do better’ even though plenty of women have supported and enabled abusers like Weinstein. As always, I strongly encourage men not to pander to demands for contrition and imposition of collective guilt until enough women display their willingness to accept the same treatment. Either you are responsible for what you are personally responsible for, and that’s it - or all groups are liable for collective responsibility/guilt.
My opinion on this whole thing might not be very popular or "politically correct", but I'm going to share it anyway.
First of all, let's get one thing straight: unsollicited sexual activity, sex without consent, harrasment etc are all utterly disgusting and should be dealt with swiftly and severely.
Secondly...................................... and here's the "controversial" part.
It really is not that much of a secret that certain women (and some men likely as well), especially in showbizz, haven't been afraid of (ab)using their own bodies to get their way into that scene.
I remember reading an article a few years back about Christina Aguilera's "comeback". She wanted to do a new album and had dificulty finding a label that would give her a good deal. The article concerned an interview with a studio manager who said that she basicaly threw herself at him. He refused and she went on to do her album at another studio. He didn't "know" how she nailed that deal (pun intended), but he said he wouldn't be surprised that that manager simply didn't refuse.
Let's not kid ourselves. This happens. Women who get promoted, women who land record deals or movie parts, not through talent or hard work, but by simply sleeping with the one who has the power to sign a contract.
I can't help but wonder, how many of those "me-too" people, fall into that category.
Surely they will regret their choice months, years later. Surely they will feel "abused". Surely they will feel "dirty" and ashamed. It would be very easy for them to jump on that bandwagon and play the victim card as well.
Not saying that his would play a part in the whole Weinstein affair for example... Eventhough I don't wish to speak out about it, since I don't "know", I don't think his victims are lying or something.
Just saying... it goes both ways here. And I know of at least 2 actresses in Belgium of whom it was a "public secret" that they landed carreers in showbizz simply by "auditioning" for parts in a producer's bedroom, on their own initiative... this was a decade ago. And today, they are among those who suddenly "speak out" about sexual abuse etc.
It goes both ways.
Yes, surely there is abuse of power where the producer says "I'll give the part, IF...."
But there most definatly is also the situation where the actress says "If you give me the part, THEN..."
And the hypocracy about that, tends to annoy me a bit.
