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    The Problem of Evil

    Indeed he would be. Say i had a genetic disorder which meant a high likelyhood that any children i father would suffer and die early. If i still chose to father those children, i would not be loving. Rev 21:4 says "4 ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’[a] or...
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    Reconciling a God who throws humans into hell, with God is Love?

    The problem is that "I" would be there. It is the person i am which makes life tedium. My vices, my failures, my weaknesses. "Sinner" if you like. Being absolved via Christ sacrifice wouldn't change the fact that it is me i'd have to live with eternally. You may say those who go to heaven are...
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    Reconciling a God who throws humans into hell, with God is Love?

    I do not wish to go to heaven after i die. I do not wish to go to hell either. I want to cease to exist. I never asked to be given life. I don't see why i should be forced to live it eternally.
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    My wife feels rejected

    People get older. A guy in his 30s/40s has less testosterone than a teenager. Plus the pressures of work, kids, life in general can take the wind out of your sails. These are two separate things. A man can be full of love for his wife and very much enjoy making love. Whilst, at the same time...
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    My wife feels rejected

    Whatever you do, don't be insincere. Do not tell her what you merely think she wants to hear. Hollywood has a lot to answer for. Too many women are taught to think that the honeymoon chemistry they knew at the start of a relationship is the norm for all the way through. They see love stories in...
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    Is marriage worth it?

    I think it completely depends on you. Everyone is individual. If you are a social person who finds joy in the company of others and you find that special someone you want to spend your life with, then marriage is for you. If you are more of a loner; if people annoy you more often than not; or if...
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    Would you get a professional massage?

    Ive had several - from both men and women. I have no problem with massage in general. However i would feel uncomfortable about massage anywhere near my pubic region (eg groin injury). Not that it would be sexual, just weird.
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    She said she wants out

    Further to your thread in the other forum, has she opened up as to what lead to this? Has she finally aired her grievance? Without knowing what got her to this point its hard to know how to move forward.
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    What happened?

    You mentioned in a later post that you got her to open up a little - that she said she wants it to be the way it was before kids and debt. I get the feeling that she's holding something else back specifically about you. How was she at the start of your marriage? If something stressful came...
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    "You can't help who you're attracted to."

    Inner beauty is essential if you want a person to be a lifelong friend. And your spouse should be your best friend. So yes, its very important. Physical/sexual attraction is important for zing, passion, fire. These things are also critical for a good marriage. So, in conclusion, you need both...
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    How can I tell my wife that weight is an issue in our relationship?

    In my case, my love for my wife is unchanging. I love her as much today as the day we married. However there is a disconnect between loving my wife and finding her to be sexually attractive. Love is a decision, a commitment, a deep bond. Attraction/arousal is chemical/hormonal. I think she is a...
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    How can I tell my wife that weight is an issue in our relationship?

    This is intriguing advice. So many men need to be able to do this as they (and their wive's) get older. I'd very much welcome more advice on how to do this.
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    The big bang theory

    It says he created the Sun, moon and stars on day 4. Another translation is that the heavens became visible on day 4. He created light on day 1.
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    Revisiting the Ontological Argument

    I disagree with this. 2 + 3 = 5 is correct in this universe because the laws of mathematics define it. A different universe with different laws may have 2 + 3 = 7. However i would agree that 2 + 3 = 5 anywhere in this universe would apply where-ever the basic rules of our mathematics are in...
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    Revisiting the Ontological Argument

    I still cannot see why point 2 is a given - why is a maximally great being necessary in any possible world?
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    My wife wants a divorce

    You are not 100% to blame for this situation. Certainly, as you say, you have neglected to show your wife the attention and affection she deserved. The fact that its hurting you so much means you love her dearly. She is an adult. She has a voice. Communications is vital for any marriage. If she...
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    If God loves us, why does he send us to hell?

    Perhaps. If it was my loved one who was murdered i might take viscous glee in the thought of the perpetrator suffering for eternity. But would a human judge be just in sentencing a murderer to eternal torment? Heres another illustration. Imagine Joe Bloggs, through living foolishly and...
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    Marriage question need guys poc

    I agree completely. 16 years is too long. 5 years is too long. Both partners should know whether they have a keeper within 1 year. Certainly within 2 years. Baring constraints like being very young (eg under 21), studying for a degree, and such, marriage plans should be on the table. In saying...
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    If God loves us, why does he send us to hell?

    Such a belief does not make logical sense. Even moreso if you present God as being fully just and knowing what is best. Therefore its not the "God" i dont believe but this doctrine as presented. If i replaced "burn in hell" with a doctrine "God demands that we all sacrifice one of our children...
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    If God loves us, why does he send us to hell?

    Thats all well and good. But its not the question being asked in this thread. I dont have a problem with God requiring a perfect standard for entrance into Heaven. But why is hell the only other option? That leads to the core question of this thread. Why would God make it that hell is the only...