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I just read your first post, and your husband sounds abusive and incredibly difficult to live with. I found a great forum for people suffering in abusive relationships which was a huge support to me when I separated from my ex-wife in 2010; hopefully you might find some reassurance and...

Emily I'm so sorry. You didn't deserve this. You are precious and loved. None of us deserve God's forgiveness, but it is a free gift to all who choose to accept it. He forgives you, Emily. You're not doomed to spending forever alone, but your focus for now is to move through this terrible...

The way I would handle this (personally) is to add time to the end of the fast. So, say, you're fasting for 24 hours and you unintentionally take a small snack, add another (say) two hours on at the end. The approach of abandoning the fast because of a lapse seems unnecessary to me. It feels...

You're twisting what I said. Please don't. The core of what I said: You're not responsible for her behaviour. You are responsible for yours. There are behaviours leading from your insecurities that have caused you in a way that can be interpreted as controlling. Deal with the plank in your...

"Setting boundaries" in a relationship should mean being clear on ways you will not be treated, and you will not treat others. For example, to not be put down, or be called names, and to have a reasonable level of privacy. People in a marriage - yes, become one flesh, but remain two...

It's hard and confusing to go through a separation. However much you feel you need that kind of companionship, it would likely be a mistake at the moment. You need time to heal and re-learn who you are. Make the most of your relationships with your friends, family and God. And be patient -...

One question; are you scared of your wife?

Your wife feels that you were abusive and moved herself and your children hundreds of miles away from you. You need to accept the possibility that she was right, that you were abusive in your marriage. Find a counsellor/program that deals with DV offenders and speak frankly with them. Be...

I'm not surprised you're confused; it must be very hard to work out where his change in attitude/behaviour have come from, and you must feel like you're going mad trying to make sense of it. I can't guess what's behind it, but have learnt in the past that trying to understand someone's...

I know how you feel. I left an abusive relationship Spring 2010, and was divorced in Spring 2011. We'd been married since 1995. Could the relationship have worked out? No, really no. She was incapable of seeing that she was any part of the problem in the relationship, said categorically...

I'm sorry to read about your situation; it sounds really painful and after just ten months must be very hard to make sense of. If he won't talk, maybe you could put your feelings and questions down in a letter? Would he be prepared to attend counselling sessions together? Remember you are a...

It's not your fault. They way he's treating you is abusive and manipulative, and it's not okay. I suggest you do some web searching of pages on emotional abuse and verbal abuse, I'm afraid you'll find it something of an eye opener but you'll quickly discover you're not alone and there's a lot...

A friend referred me to the "Five Love Languages" website ... one or two quotes that seems relevant: "Forget about your feelings. You do not have to feel anything to love your spouse. Feelings may change because of your actions, but feelings should...

I would go out on a limb financially if necessary to get what I felt was most suitable for my daughter. Fortunately the local state primary school we looked round today (my daughter will start in September 2005) is Methodist and seems to give a good moral and social education as well as...

Yay! I have finally got all the basics written and tested ... so I hereby declare the site "live". I've e-mailed account activation codes to all the people that pre-registered. Any other 19+ christians here that want to join too are more than welcome (I'll probably add groups for teens in the...

Please can you pray for my healing from the severe Migraine headaches I've been having recently. I've been suffering from Migraines for a few years now, usually they come up a few times a month and respond to over-the-counter or prescription pills well. Since this January though, I've...

My apologies - I made a change to part of the code and forgot to retest the registration page. It should be OK if you try it again now!

I hope I'm OK posting about this in this forum... I'm currently setting up an interactive website for christian men and woman, to allow them to in small groups share prayer requests and fellowship online. The groups within the site will all be single-sex, and no more than 12 people per...

Is anyone here familiar with Father Anthony de Mello's teachings? I've just read "Awareness" and would be interested to hear other people's reactions to it.